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bran155

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I know all too well what you are going through. My daughter ran from her first Residential Treatment Center (RTC) 13 times in 3 months. The worst one being a 5 day stay on the streets of Patterson NJ!!! Ever been there? It is horrible!! I know the worry you are living with right now, can't eat, can't sleep....yada, yada, yada!!! These kids, either don't care about what they put us poor parents through or they just don't realize how much we worry. I'm sure he will be just fine and when he runs out of resources he'll be back. Hang in there and God bless. :)
 

meowbunny

New Member
Another been there done that and know your hell. Mine ran from upper New England to NYC with a girl 2 years younger than her but 10 years older in experience. My child had never been to NYC, had the street smarts of a puppy and the common sense of a flea. After she got mugged, she tried to turn herself into the first police officer she saw -- he was a security guard and not even remotely interested. It took her 14 hours to find a police station. Fortunately, all turned out well and at least she never ran again after that experience.

Kids ran from her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) on occasion. Two boys made it to Las Vegas. Most would get to "civilization" (a town with a population of about 500) and either call home, call a friend or call the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The adventure of getting down a mountain in the wilderness was not their idea of fun.

Hope he turns around and comes back soon. As strange as it sounds, running can frequently turn into something positive, especially if the experience is bad enough to scare them but not bad enough to seriously harm them.

No matter what, though, I'm sorry you're going through this. HUGS
 

DammitJanet

Well-Known Member
Another been there done that but it was me who ran. I wasnt in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but I ran away to NYC and ended up on the streets for over two weeks. One thing I did learn was that wasnt the brightest thing to do! I did live through it though.
 
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butterflydreams

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So sorry that he ran. My heart goes out to you. I hope he comes back soon.

Sending big hugs to you,

Christy
 

slsh

member since 1999
Gosh - I'm so sorry to hear this. Honestly.... these kids. When they show up, you don't know whether to kill them or just hang on to them forever.

I hope you get word soon that he's safe and sound. Is there a specific place/person they're heading to?

So sorry!
 

TerryJ2

Well-Known Member
Oh no! I'm so sorry.
I hope he gets smart and checks in with-someone. You must be a wreck. (And then when he turns up, you'll be an angry wreck.)
So sorry.
 

Christy

New Member
Sending good thoughts your way. I hope you've heard something. I am so sorry you are going through this.
((hugs))
Christy
 

DDD

Well-Known Member
The combo of "honor roll student" and "impulse control" etc. is a hard nut to crack. He KNOWS that he can outsmart everyone and do what he wants to do. Sadly the school of hard knocks is the most successful school for these combo kids.

I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. It is amazing
how many "run" and stay completely safe...I'm sure your son will be one of the healthy survivors. Hugs. DDD
 

seekinghope

New Member
Thanks to everyone for being there.
He is at his dad's in Brooklyn.
I have yet to contact the RCT or the police but my ex phoned the detective in his building and I spoke to the PINS officer on my end. He and the probation officer are suppose to be at my house Mon. morning. Anyone who read my previous posts knows that technically my son is not officially on probation or on PINS because he was at the Phos and RCT before this so these actions were put on hold.

This has been the worst weekend of my life besides the time my father and brother passed away.

Now here is what's happening...
My ex lives in Brooklyn in a studio apart. He is in a good section. However, walk for 5 minutes in any direction and the crime and drugs rates are astronomical. I feel he has no chance there. His father has never been the custodial parent. He lasted 7 days the last time we tried this.
My husband does not want to take him back. He is afraid he and my son will eventually wind-up in a physical confrontation. He actually has rules and enforces them. He will not be manipulated and the anger in my son last time was scary.That is part of why he went to the phos to keep him safe and others safe. He also says that nothing we have tried has gotten through to this kid.
What brought my husband to take this drastic measure is this... my son called his dad the night he went A-Wall; Thurs. night, eventually my ex convinced him to get into the car and come to his apt. My son who should be scared out of his wits and should be doing anything his dad says is arguing with him. Hi's dad had to pay almost $500.00 to the cab comp. that took him there; another story for another time, call the detective in his building, leave work and drive around for hours looking for him. When they get to the apartment my son refuses to go upstairs to go to sleep. He wants to sleep in the car. His dad after hours and late into the night gives-up and goes upstairs to bed. Same thing repeated last night, wants to sleep in the car. His dad tells him Fri. to stay inside the apartment because all the precincts have not been notified and he is still a missing person and my son spent all day outside.

So here I am this morning happy my son is alive and so unhappy. I have to choose between letting my son stay there, leaving my husband, I don't know what other options I have. I don't know what to do.

But I want to thank everyone for posting their support, it helps because I feel I am not alone.
 

slsh

member since 1999
I am *so* relieved to see this update.

I guess I don't understand the situation - I thought the courts were involved, even though he was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Was Residential Treatment Center (RTC) court-ordered?

I can't imagine how horrible the last few days have been for you. At this point, I think I would leave it to the courts. Sounds like staying with ex is out of the question in ex's eyes. I would think difficult child needs to be returned/escorted back to Residential Treatment Center (RTC)?

Sorry, guess I'm confused on the details of where he was placed, by who, and why. But - I am just so glad you know where he is and that he is with ex right now, however this ends up playing out.

Try to give yourself some TLC this weekend - you must just be drained.
 
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