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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 90968" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Well I'm not cut from the same cloth so maybe this will sound burlappy. </p><p></p><p>I don't think it has anything to do with suckers, lollipops, DARE or red day. I think it has to do with honesty or in Tinks case her teacher's lack of it. </p><p></p><p>Do I think you need to go to the school with Tink and have a meeting with this teacher? OHHHhhhh you betcha. Tink needs to know that if she is honest - there are rewards for it, and when people think she is dishonest and has been honest there will be consequences for the other person who didn't believe her. </p><p></p><p>I went through a similar situation in first grade with difficult child. Someone had accidentally set their candy in difficult child's cubby and he got 'caught' with 2 pieces. The other little boy was made out to be a victim and my son to be the evil Over Lord of underworld of black market Valentine's day suckers. My son at the end of the day met me at my car crying. He begged me to not confront the teacher. We left. </p><p></p><p>On Monday (after bar tending 12 hours straight) I was in no mood. I had my pj's on, put on my lace up chick boots, my long leather duster and headed out to school. (It was like Alice Cooper in drag) I knocked on the door of the classroom. I asked ever so politely if I could speak with her about the incident. The teacher said without a miss "There's nothing to talk about Your son is a thief" (first grade thief?) So I proceeded to explain in the most silent and serious of tones how important it is for young impressionable children to be believed especially when the teacher didn't actually see the 'alleged theft' and by the time I was done explaining life to her as I knew it and what would happen to her job should she ever EVER make my son cry again - we both go up, left the room and she was in tears. </p><p></p><p>I then said once I had her crying "It sure doesn't feel good to have the big person make the smaller person cry does it?" I called my own son out into the hallway and told him his teacher had something to say to him - and then I said it would be nice if she explained it to the entire class - I'd gladly wait in the hall. She announced that my son was accused unfairly, and she had not in fact seen him take the sucker AND for everyone to be careful where they put their candy when passed out. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Darn right I'd go to the school and defend her honor. If you don't who's she going to count on to be there for HER and have HER back in the future? </p><p></p><p>Three years later this same teacher confessed to me that that day was a turning point in her life. She had just had twins, was poor and her husband was cheating on her. SHe was eating grits to survive. I told her - at 6 and 7 they don't have much but you wreck their lives branding them a liar at that age and no one will ever trust them in school and their lives beome scapegoate`. </p><p></p><p>or is it scape goaty? </p><p></p><p>Be her warrior - :warrior: my .63 cents worth. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 90968, member: 4964"] Well I'm not cut from the same cloth so maybe this will sound burlappy. I don't think it has anything to do with suckers, lollipops, DARE or red day. I think it has to do with honesty or in Tinks case her teacher's lack of it. Do I think you need to go to the school with Tink and have a meeting with this teacher? OHHHhhhh you betcha. Tink needs to know that if she is honest - there are rewards for it, and when people think she is dishonest and has been honest there will be consequences for the other person who didn't believe her. I went through a similar situation in first grade with difficult child. Someone had accidentally set their candy in difficult child's cubby and he got 'caught' with 2 pieces. The other little boy was made out to be a victim and my son to be the evil Over Lord of underworld of black market Valentine's day suckers. My son at the end of the day met me at my car crying. He begged me to not confront the teacher. We left. On Monday (after bar tending 12 hours straight) I was in no mood. I had my pj's on, put on my lace up chick boots, my long leather duster and headed out to school. (It was like Alice Cooper in drag) I knocked on the door of the classroom. I asked ever so politely if I could speak with her about the incident. The teacher said without a miss "There's nothing to talk about Your son is a thief" (first grade thief?) So I proceeded to explain in the most silent and serious of tones how important it is for young impressionable children to be believed especially when the teacher didn't actually see the 'alleged theft' and by the time I was done explaining life to her as I knew it and what would happen to her job should she ever EVER make my son cry again - we both go up, left the room and she was in tears. I then said once I had her crying "It sure doesn't feel good to have the big person make the smaller person cry does it?" I called my own son out into the hallway and told him his teacher had something to say to him - and then I said it would be nice if she explained it to the entire class - I'd gladly wait in the hall. She announced that my son was accused unfairly, and she had not in fact seen him take the sucker AND for everyone to be careful where they put their candy when passed out. Darn right I'd go to the school and defend her honor. If you don't who's she going to count on to be there for HER and have HER back in the future? Three years later this same teacher confessed to me that that day was a turning point in her life. She had just had twins, was poor and her husband was cheating on her. SHe was eating grits to survive. I told her - at 6 and 7 they don't have much but you wreck their lives branding them a liar at that age and no one will ever trust them in school and their lives beome scapegoate`. or is it scape goaty? Be her warrior - [img]:warrior:[/img] my .63 cents worth. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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