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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 300341" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Thanks, you two. It always will feel like my mom is supposed to love me "unconditionally". And maybe that's what she means when the best she can come up with is "Because I love you", but the only good thing she can think of me is that I cook well.</p><p></p><p>I think we all have conditions on relationships, if not on our love. We can always love our mom who kept us chained up in the basement, under the condition that we don't have to see our mom who did this and can still see no fault in her reasoning or behavior. For most of us there are limits to everything we will tolerate. Some have a higher tolerance level than others, and I think that everyone sees things differently.</p><p></p><p>My tolerance level with my parents is that they don't seem to want to see me unless it's to put on a show for someone else, and there are certain people that they wouldn't be caught dead seeing me with. They don't seem to like me very much. I can't tolerate that. I don't know that I ever loved my dad, he was always someone we were taught to fear. I don't know what to say about how I feel about my mom. To me, the perfect example of love is me and husband. There's times I can't stand him, but I love him enough that I want to try to get back to the times he makes my heart spin. But that takes two. So far it's not there with my mom. No question it's not there with my dad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 300341, member: 99"] Thanks, you two. It always will feel like my mom is supposed to love me "unconditionally". And maybe that's what she means when the best she can come up with is "Because I love you", but the only good thing she can think of me is that I cook well. I think we all have conditions on relationships, if not on our love. We can always love our mom who kept us chained up in the basement, under the condition that we don't have to see our mom who did this and can still see no fault in her reasoning or behavior. For most of us there are limits to everything we will tolerate. Some have a higher tolerance level than others, and I think that everyone sees things differently. My tolerance level with my parents is that they don't seem to want to see me unless it's to put on a show for someone else, and there are certain people that they wouldn't be caught dead seeing me with. They don't seem to like me very much. I can't tolerate that. I don't know that I ever loved my dad, he was always someone we were taught to fear. I don't know what to say about how I feel about my mom. To me, the perfect example of love is me and husband. There's times I can't stand him, but I love him enough that I want to try to get back to the times he makes my heart spin. But that takes two. So far it's not there with my mom. No question it's not there with my dad. [/QUOTE]
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