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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 301424" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry that your daughter continues to go out of her way to create more drama and pain for you. </p><p></p><p>This is such a tough spot to be in for you. Seems like your mom is willing to put on a show for L - a show that looks like "all is well and we are a happy pretend family". It has to hurt even more that they would do this for your child and not even make an effort for YOU.</p><p></p><p>Sadly it may come to the self-preservation point that you have to screen L's calls carefully also. She is getting a HUGE charge out of orchestrating all of this.she sure learned a LOT about manipulation watching her dad go through the system to destroy any chance you had of being a parent to her.</p><p></p><p>I would let husband field ALL phone calls from L and any other family members. I am quite sure that they have all gotten enough mileage out of this to last at least until Christmas.</p><p></p><p>I would be tempted to drop a line to L to say that when she wants to behave like a respectful daughter you would be happy to include her in your life, but until that point she can keep her drama trauma confined to your parents and her father.</p><p></p><p>It is cold, maybe. But there just is SO MUCH water under this bridge that I fear you will really end up sick physically AND emotionally if you continue to allow her to do this to you. She is 26 now and is more than old enough to learn that this is NOT ABOUT HER. If she cannot grasp that, maybe she simply is not able to be a part of a healthy life for you. </p><p></p><p>Please put YOUR needs above her drama. She is excellent at creating drama and if she gets you "back together" with your so-called family then she will create even MORE conflama to get you "kicked out" again. </p><p></p><p>That is a tweenager game. NOT the kind of behavior and manipulation that one expects from an adult.</p><p></p><p>Please take care to protect yourself and the parts of your life that work from her meddling. You can always block your parents numbers from your phone and email.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 301424, member: 1233"] I am so sorry that your daughter continues to go out of her way to create more drama and pain for you. This is such a tough spot to be in for you. Seems like your mom is willing to put on a show for L - a show that looks like "all is well and we are a happy pretend family". It has to hurt even more that they would do this for your child and not even make an effort for YOU. Sadly it may come to the self-preservation point that you have to screen L's calls carefully also. She is getting a HUGE charge out of orchestrating all of this.she sure learned a LOT about manipulation watching her dad go through the system to destroy any chance you had of being a parent to her. I would let husband field ALL phone calls from L and any other family members. I am quite sure that they have all gotten enough mileage out of this to last at least until Christmas. I would be tempted to drop a line to L to say that when she wants to behave like a respectful daughter you would be happy to include her in your life, but until that point she can keep her drama trauma confined to your parents and her father. It is cold, maybe. But there just is SO MUCH water under this bridge that I fear you will really end up sick physically AND emotionally if you continue to allow her to do this to you. She is 26 now and is more than old enough to learn that this is NOT ABOUT HER. If she cannot grasp that, maybe she simply is not able to be a part of a healthy life for you. Please put YOUR needs above her drama. She is excellent at creating drama and if she gets you "back together" with your so-called family then she will create even MORE conflama to get you "kicked out" again. That is a tweenager game. NOT the kind of behavior and manipulation that one expects from an adult. Please take care to protect yourself and the parts of your life that work from her meddling. You can always block your parents numbers from your phone and email. [/QUOTE]
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