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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 524626" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Susie - Believe me I wish I could do all of those things. At 16 he is allowed to leave home and go his own way. We can not kick him out until he is 18 but he can choose to leave at 16. We can't force medical care unless we can prove he is a danger to himself or others (which maybe now I can). He doesn't have to tell us where he is or who he is living with. Nothing. It is absolutely ridiculous. I know in the US it is 18 but here in Canada it is 16. </p><p></p><p>Although, get this - I am legally responsible to make sure he goes to school until he is 18 whether he is living at home or not. And if he is truant I can be charged. How stupid is that? I do think there is a way around this but that would mean that we would have to sort of emancipate him and I'm not prepared to do that yet.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, not only are his girlfriends parents allowing him to live there right now, they are driving him around town with his girlfriend and giving him spending money! Club medication for him. Why would he want to come home? </p><p></p><p>A friend of ours is a police officer and my husband spoke to him this morning. He gave us a number to call to speak to a psychiatric nurse. They have a nurse and a police officer that go out and interview kids that have made claims like this and if they think he is a danger to himself/others they will take him away to the hospital, I guess. I'm going to call this morning. I think he is just attention seeking and if he has cut himself it is only so he can show the proper people how much 'damage' we have done to him. But, I have to take it seriously and follow through regardless - and maybe this is a way to get him psychiatrically assessed. </p><p></p><p>Sigh. Another pretty much sleepless night last night. husband and I are just reeling from the shock of all this. </p><p></p><p>husband said today that if we told him he could come home, do whatever he wanted, not have to answer to us or be accountable for anything - he'd be back in a second. Of course that isn't going to happen so I guess he probably won't be back unless and until he gets declined by welfare and his only option becomes the street. And he'll only return then so we can support him financially - it won't be to make amends or try to have a good relationship with us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 524626, member: 14356"] Susie - Believe me I wish I could do all of those things. At 16 he is allowed to leave home and go his own way. We can not kick him out until he is 18 but he can choose to leave at 16. We can't force medical care unless we can prove he is a danger to himself or others (which maybe now I can). He doesn't have to tell us where he is or who he is living with. Nothing. It is absolutely ridiculous. I know in the US it is 18 but here in Canada it is 16. Although, get this - I am legally responsible to make sure he goes to school until he is 18 whether he is living at home or not. And if he is truant I can be charged. How stupid is that? I do think there is a way around this but that would mean that we would have to sort of emancipate him and I'm not prepared to do that yet. Anyway, not only are his girlfriends parents allowing him to live there right now, they are driving him around town with his girlfriend and giving him spending money! Club medication for him. Why would he want to come home? A friend of ours is a police officer and my husband spoke to him this morning. He gave us a number to call to speak to a psychiatric nurse. They have a nurse and a police officer that go out and interview kids that have made claims like this and if they think he is a danger to himself/others they will take him away to the hospital, I guess. I'm going to call this morning. I think he is just attention seeking and if he has cut himself it is only so he can show the proper people how much 'damage' we have done to him. But, I have to take it seriously and follow through regardless - and maybe this is a way to get him psychiatrically assessed. Sigh. Another pretty much sleepless night last night. husband and I are just reeling from the shock of all this. husband said today that if we told him he could come home, do whatever he wanted, not have to answer to us or be accountable for anything - he'd be back in a second. Of course that isn't going to happen so I guess he probably won't be back unless and until he gets declined by welfare and his only option becomes the street. And he'll only return then so we can support him financially - it won't be to make amends or try to have a good relationship with us. [/QUOTE]
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