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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 395515" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>It is very normal to have a much too long wait to get into a professional.</p><p> </p><p>As for the day to day activities. Try making and keeping a very structured daily schedule. Have her help you make a "chart" using pictures (cut from magazines) showing what will happen through out the day. (clothes for getting dressed, bathroom scene for brushing teeth, school building for school, ect.) In this day and age, keeping every day the same is very difficult but do your best to always do the same thing at the same time every day.</p><p> </p><p>Stay as calm as possible during her Suzie moments. Don't show any emotions, especially desperation. Kids pull their energy from their parent's emotions during those not so fun moments. Stay strong and calm. </p><p> </p><p>Watch for triggers and warning signs and work at guideing her to a different activity before she realizes she wants the "control of the moment". If you see her start to meltdown, try saying, "Time for a switch - shall we take a walk? (or color, ect)"</p><p> </p><p>Once they are in a meltdown stage, it is often times impossible to reach them. Wait until she has calmed down to approach her. Then maybe, "I bet you are tired. Should we sit on the couch together and I read a book to you?"</p><p> </p><p>Be positive in every request. Think outside the box. Instead of, "It is time to go - get your coat" (which some kids take as you yelling at them - mine does anyway), try, "It is time to go, are you able to find your coat?" or "Would you like me to help you find your coat?" or "We need to leave soon. Do you have time to get your coat on?" I usually suggest to talk to them like you would a guest in your house whenever possible. We usually don't tell our guests what to do but have figured out how to guide our guests through things. How would a guest respond if I said, "Time to go - get your coat."</p><p> </p><p>These may or may not work - just trying to brainstorm.</p><p> </p><p>Have you made that appointment that will be a few months out? If not, do so, the wait is never shorter and the one they offered will most likely be gone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 395515, member: 5096"] It is very normal to have a much too long wait to get into a professional. As for the day to day activities. Try making and keeping a very structured daily schedule. Have her help you make a "chart" using pictures (cut from magazines) showing what will happen through out the day. (clothes for getting dressed, bathroom scene for brushing teeth, school building for school, ect.) In this day and age, keeping every day the same is very difficult but do your best to always do the same thing at the same time every day. Stay as calm as possible during her Suzie moments. Don't show any emotions, especially desperation. Kids pull their energy from their parent's emotions during those not so fun moments. Stay strong and calm. Watch for triggers and warning signs and work at guideing her to a different activity before she realizes she wants the "control of the moment". If you see her start to meltdown, try saying, "Time for a switch - shall we take a walk? (or color, ect)" Once they are in a meltdown stage, it is often times impossible to reach them. Wait until she has calmed down to approach her. Then maybe, "I bet you are tired. Should we sit on the couch together and I read a book to you?" Be positive in every request. Think outside the box. Instead of, "It is time to go - get your coat" (which some kids take as you yelling at them - mine does anyway), try, "It is time to go, are you able to find your coat?" or "Would you like me to help you find your coat?" or "We need to leave soon. Do you have time to get your coat on?" I usually suggest to talk to them like you would a guest in your house whenever possible. We usually don't tell our guests what to do but have figured out how to guide our guests through things. How would a guest respond if I said, "Time to go - get your coat." These may or may not work - just trying to brainstorm. Have you made that appointment that will be a few months out? If not, do so, the wait is never shorter and the one they offered will most likely be gone. [/QUOTE]
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