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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 383005" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Jena - I know you're worried sick and beyond, and I think you need to pat yourself on the back - this has been incredibly difficult for you, but you've kept her bests interests at heart, have been a really good advocate for her, and have gotten her the best help you can find. </p><p></p><p>I know that you want to be there and in contact with her but I think it actually might not be a bad thing that she can't contact you right now. She's 11, and this is her treatment. She needs to focus on that, and that alone. I can't say this without it sounding harsher than I mean, and I apologize, but I think it's not a bad thing for her to be out of her comfort zone. She's certainly old enough to start working on some insight into her problem, as well as ownership of it. She has to address this. </p><p></p><p>I'm actually pretty surprised at the amt of contact this facility allows. Even when my kid was only 6, contact when he was inpatient was limited to 3 visiting days and monitored phone calls. I was a basket case at the time, but having the luxury of hindsight, I think it was a good policy. Parents can be distractions. Not intentionally, but these kids are our very heart, and I think it's sometimes impossible for us to resist or even recognize that we need to resist the temptation to rescue our kids. </p><p></p><p>You cannot fix this for her. Staff can't either. As a team, you all can support her and guide her and help *her* to work on this, but she is the one who in the end has to do the work. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 383005, member: 8"] Jena - I know you're worried sick and beyond, and I think you need to pat yourself on the back - this has been incredibly difficult for you, but you've kept her bests interests at heart, have been a really good advocate for her, and have gotten her the best help you can find. I know that you want to be there and in contact with her but I think it actually might not be a bad thing that she can't contact you right now. She's 11, and this is her treatment. She needs to focus on that, and that alone. I can't say this without it sounding harsher than I mean, and I apologize, but I think it's not a bad thing for her to be out of her comfort zone. She's certainly old enough to start working on some insight into her problem, as well as ownership of it. She has to address this. I'm actually pretty surprised at the amt of contact this facility allows. Even when my kid was only 6, contact when he was inpatient was limited to 3 visiting days and monitored phone calls. I was a basket case at the time, but having the luxury of hindsight, I think it was a good policy. Parents can be distractions. Not intentionally, but these kids are our very heart, and I think it's sometimes impossible for us to resist or even recognize that we need to resist the temptation to rescue our kids. You cannot fix this for her. Staff can't either. As a team, you all can support her and guide her and help *her* to work on this, but she is the one who in the end has to do the work. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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