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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 563654" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>If my son is told he has to behave a certain way for x amount of time..</p><p></p><p>ESPECIALLY if is offered a powerful reward, the pressure of that guarantees he will not earn it, early on......</p><p></p><p>I.agree that saying be good or polite or respectful all are words that are too general for a difficult child and also so subjective to those judging him that one person may think a small infraction is a violation of the day and others may not. </p><p>Also if he has an issue early in a given day, what is the incentive to do well for the rest of the day. My son would actually say, "What's the point?"</p><p></p><p>Forgive me, I don't know your history. Has this son had any evaluations to help figure out what his challenges are? If I put my son in that scenario anything from the volume or sounds in the movie could have set him off plus he rarely can watch a movie with alot of talking because of the language processing challenges. It's just too fast.</p><p></p><p>He is offered an option on Friday movie day....he can be on the computer with ear phones or in another room with an ipad or book. </p><p></p><p>Any way your S/O could use more of the collaborative problem solving idea ....and start by targeting a specific challenge? ( a la The Explosive Child, Ross Greene type of idea....prioritize what behaviors to target and reward building skills that will allow him another way to handle things)??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 563654, member: 12886"] If my son is told he has to behave a certain way for x amount of time.. ESPECIALLY if is offered a powerful reward, the pressure of that guarantees he will not earn it, early on...... I.agree that saying be good or polite or respectful all are words that are too general for a difficult child and also so subjective to those judging him that one person may think a small infraction is a violation of the day and others may not. Also if he has an issue early in a given day, what is the incentive to do well for the rest of the day. My son would actually say, "What's the point?" Forgive me, I don't know your history. Has this son had any evaluations to help figure out what his challenges are? If I put my son in that scenario anything from the volume or sounds in the movie could have set him off plus he rarely can watch a movie with alot of talking because of the language processing challenges. It's just too fast. He is offered an option on Friday movie day....he can be on the computer with ear phones or in another room with an ipad or book. Any way your S/O could use more of the collaborative problem solving idea ....and start by targeting a specific challenge? ( a la The Explosive Child, Ross Greene type of idea....prioritize what behaviors to target and reward building skills that will allow him another way to handle things)?? [/QUOTE]
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