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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 189409" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>difficult child was telling me that his body didn't always feel normal (that he went long periods of time where pain didn't feel "right") and that there were times when he really could not quit talking or sit still or control his anger, etc. He had been punished many times for these things, but months afterwards he told me this in a conversations that had nothing to do with him being in previous trouble. I don't think any amount of punishment could stop what he was going thru- I do think punishment is warranted at times and that he needs to learn ways of dealing with these "urges" (with the help of medications as necessary) but I don't think the cause of it was a discipline problem.</p><p></p><p>I happened to be thinking of these things on vacation- then, when I was reading thru recent posts with several kids being diagnosis'd with ODD and parents doing everything they can to find the right punishment to get their kids out of this "habit", I thought I would bring it up.</p><p></p><p>But, the bigger point I was trying to make was that with my difficult child, I wouldn't have even known about those things until he quit feeling like he would get punished for it- once I put myself in his shoes, I realized that if I got punished every time I showed a glimmer of something, I sure wouldn't admit to anyone that that was a whole lot more inside. But- there is no way we can help them if we don't know what is inside. Sorry- I'm tired- I don't think I'm wording this very well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 189409, member: 3699"] difficult child was telling me that his body didn't always feel normal (that he went long periods of time where pain didn't feel "right") and that there were times when he really could not quit talking or sit still or control his anger, etc. He had been punished many times for these things, but months afterwards he told me this in a conversations that had nothing to do with him being in previous trouble. I don't think any amount of punishment could stop what he was going thru- I do think punishment is warranted at times and that he needs to learn ways of dealing with these "urges" (with the help of medications as necessary) but I don't think the cause of it was a discipline problem. I happened to be thinking of these things on vacation- then, when I was reading thru recent posts with several kids being diagnosis'd with ODD and parents doing everything they can to find the right punishment to get their kids out of this "habit", I thought I would bring it up. But, the bigger point I was trying to make was that with my difficult child, I wouldn't have even known about those things until he quit feeling like he would get punished for it- once I put myself in his shoes, I realized that if I got punished every time I showed a glimmer of something, I sure wouldn't admit to anyone that that was a whole lot more inside. But- there is no way we can help them if we don't know what is inside. Sorry- I'm tired- I don't think I'm wording this very well. [/QUOTE]
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