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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 610047" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Susie, I couldn't agree more. We haven't paid for our difficult child's cell phone since she was 18 and she has always managed to have a cell phone. It is the first bill she pays. </p><p></p><p>I think it is very much a personal decision about whether or not to pay for our adult difficult child's phones. It almost seems like emotional blackmail to me, though. I believe a difficult child will always manage to get a cell phone when they really need one. So if the only way that a parent can keep in contact is to pay for a cell phone then aren't they being held hostage? It seems like the difficult child is saying "pay for my phone or I will cut off contact" which to me is definitely blackmail.</p><p></p><p>Trust me, I am not judging here. I was (and still am at times) an enabler and my difficult child has never cut off contact or disappeared for any period of time. In fact, sometimes I turn off the phone because I hear from her too much. LOL</p><p></p><p>I guess I would just feel used if the only way I would hear from my difficult child would be if I paid for her to have a cell phone.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 610047, member: 1967"] Susie, I couldn't agree more. We haven't paid for our difficult child's cell phone since she was 18 and she has always managed to have a cell phone. It is the first bill she pays. I think it is very much a personal decision about whether or not to pay for our adult difficult child's phones. It almost seems like emotional blackmail to me, though. I believe a difficult child will always manage to get a cell phone when they really need one. So if the only way that a parent can keep in contact is to pay for a cell phone then aren't they being held hostage? It seems like the difficult child is saying "pay for my phone or I will cut off contact" which to me is definitely blackmail. Trust me, I am not judging here. I was (and still am at times) an enabler and my difficult child has never cut off contact or disappeared for any period of time. In fact, sometimes I turn off the phone because I hear from her too much. LOL I guess I would just feel used if the only way I would hear from my difficult child would be if I paid for her to have a cell phone. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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