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Throwing a Kid out and Cutting Them Off Financially
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 754348" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I'm going to put in a good word for not overreacting.</p><p></p><p>Although our troubled kids can be dangerous, depending on the kid (not all are potential killers) most murders are not committed by people whom anyone saw as dangerous before they did it. They are crimes of passion, murder for insurance money, school shooters who were NEVER violent at home or in school, people nobody ever dreamed could ever kill, etc. </p><p></p><p>We don't allow Kay in our home and never will because she made a very scary threat of violence towards our son. The only thing that saved him from glass in his face and throat was Kay's poor aim. So that was that. But if a wayward child has never shown violence, then I believe he or she is no more apt to hurt us than those who are disturbed privately and don't show it. Are we to always expect the worse? We need to give ourselves a sensible break from worry in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, Crayola's story brings up something we CAN avoid...a nasty confrontation under our own roof. I think it is smart NOT to confront your child about his or her new reality in private. To protect ourselves, I feel it is smarter to tell them unpleasantries in a public place. Where other people can help if it gets out of control.</p><p></p><p>But even though we can take precautions against our difficult kids, I feel anyone can be capable of violence and that we need not make our fears worse by worrying that our kids may be capable of murder. Unless your child IS violent. That is different.</p><p></p><p>We have a zero tolerance regarding violence in our home. </p><p></p><p>I think we need to put each story into perspective. We don't need to add to our angst, yet we CAN be smart and cautious when we have to share potentially upsetting information with our more volitile kids. </p><p></p><p>God bless you all and try to find peace in your lives.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 754348, member: 23706"] I'm going to put in a good word for not overreacting. Although our troubled kids can be dangerous, depending on the kid (not all are potential killers) most murders are not committed by people whom anyone saw as dangerous before they did it. They are crimes of passion, murder for insurance money, school shooters who were NEVER violent at home or in school, people nobody ever dreamed could ever kill, etc. We don't allow Kay in our home and never will because she made a very scary threat of violence towards our son. The only thing that saved him from glass in his face and throat was Kay's poor aim. So that was that. But if a wayward child has never shown violence, then I believe he or she is no more apt to hurt us than those who are disturbed privately and don't show it. Are we to always expect the worse? We need to give ourselves a sensible break from worry in my opinion. On the other hand, Crayola's story brings up something we CAN avoid...a nasty confrontation under our own roof. I think it is smart NOT to confront your child about his or her new reality in private. To protect ourselves, I feel it is smarter to tell them unpleasantries in a public place. Where other people can help if it gets out of control. But even though we can take precautions against our difficult kids, I feel anyone can be capable of violence and that we need not make our fears worse by worrying that our kids may be capable of murder. Unless your child IS violent. That is different. We have a zero tolerance regarding violence in our home. I think we need to put each story into perspective. We don't need to add to our angst, yet we CAN be smart and cautious when we have to share potentially upsetting information with our more volitile kids. God bless you all and try to find peace in your lives. [/QUOTE]
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