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<blockquote data-quote="wintak" data-source="post: 428406" data-attributes="member: 11938"><p>I totally realize we aren't diagnosis'ing my kid...but I am going in to the doctor Wednesday armed with a lot more questions than I usually have, thanks to all the real life info here.</p><p></p><p>I tried talking to him tonight about what he meant by "he's doing it on purpose" cuz I was thinking today that maybe he was stimming and such. So I ask him if it comforts him and he says it feels good. I try to ask what that means. I have video of him playing soccer with his younger brother today, having a good time and hitting the **** out of his right hip with his right fist, even while running. He says when he's happy the hitting makes him feel happy, and when he's mad the hitting makes him know he did something bad. But truly this kid is a TERRIBLE communicator. He truly is.</p><p></p><p>He doesn't seem to indicate that it's soothing or comforting to him. I talked to him at length tonight about my "concerns" (docs way of phrasing it so he doesn't get defensive) and how I can help him but he's got to be able to tell me more than "I like it". He tells me he's gonna stop. In fact, at one point we were doing rewards if he could be quiet and still during book time at night. If the reward was something he wanted (A small piece of candy (therapists idea)) he could be quiet and still for LONG periods of time. But then that got old (as it does with him) and he didn't care about the treat anymore so he started in again.</p><p></p><p>I asked him if he's nervous about stuff and he says no, then TOTALLY uses that word everytime something didn't go his way. Ugh. So I ask him, why does book time make you nervous? He says, it doesn't. Then why do you make all those noises and stuff? Then he gets frustrated but we end it calmly and off to get ready for bed. He does help his little brother out tonight, which was nice, got praised etc. </p><p></p><p>He walks in the room for books and starts IMMEDIATELY with the noises and physical beating of himself. I burst into tears right then and there in front of the kids. I couldn't take it anymore. I"m sure some of you reading are thinking what a horrible person I am that I can't be open enough to handle the tics/stims but they are CONSTANT and LOUD and all recent. I was thinking back...his recent repetoire is in the last 4-6 weeks. And then because I'm bawling, my sensitive easy child 1 and easy child 2 start crying and easy child 1 starts going on about how she's going to lose me when I die. HOLY ****...where did THIS come from? Anyway, another story, another time.</p><p></p><p>And again, he does NOT do these in school except for math class, which is blissfully easy for him. Any ideas on how you all deal with the constant stimulant/tic? Or do kids who stimulant/tic only do them when certain triggers happen? I'm so confused and I'm thinking this is going to be another summer spent at dr offices. Heavy sigh</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wintak, post: 428406, member: 11938"] I totally realize we aren't diagnosis'ing my kid...but I am going in to the doctor Wednesday armed with a lot more questions than I usually have, thanks to all the real life info here. I tried talking to him tonight about what he meant by "he's doing it on purpose" cuz I was thinking today that maybe he was stimming and such. So I ask him if it comforts him and he says it feels good. I try to ask what that means. I have video of him playing soccer with his younger brother today, having a good time and hitting the **** out of his right hip with his right fist, even while running. He says when he's happy the hitting makes him feel happy, and when he's mad the hitting makes him know he did something bad. But truly this kid is a TERRIBLE communicator. He truly is. He doesn't seem to indicate that it's soothing or comforting to him. I talked to him at length tonight about my "concerns" (docs way of phrasing it so he doesn't get defensive) and how I can help him but he's got to be able to tell me more than "I like it". He tells me he's gonna stop. In fact, at one point we were doing rewards if he could be quiet and still during book time at night. If the reward was something he wanted (A small piece of candy (therapists idea)) he could be quiet and still for LONG periods of time. But then that got old (as it does with him) and he didn't care about the treat anymore so he started in again. I asked him if he's nervous about stuff and he says no, then TOTALLY uses that word everytime something didn't go his way. Ugh. So I ask him, why does book time make you nervous? He says, it doesn't. Then why do you make all those noises and stuff? Then he gets frustrated but we end it calmly and off to get ready for bed. He does help his little brother out tonight, which was nice, got praised etc. He walks in the room for books and starts IMMEDIATELY with the noises and physical beating of himself. I burst into tears right then and there in front of the kids. I couldn't take it anymore. I"m sure some of you reading are thinking what a horrible person I am that I can't be open enough to handle the tics/stims but they are CONSTANT and LOUD and all recent. I was thinking back...his recent repetoire is in the last 4-6 weeks. And then because I'm bawling, my sensitive easy child 1 and easy child 2 start crying and easy child 1 starts going on about how she's going to lose me when I die. HOLY ****...where did THIS come from? Anyway, another story, another time. And again, he does NOT do these in school except for math class, which is blissfully easy for him. Any ideas on how you all deal with the constant stimulant/tic? Or do kids who stimulant/tic only do them when certain triggers happen? I'm so confused and I'm thinking this is going to be another summer spent at dr offices. Heavy sigh [/QUOTE]
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