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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 152016" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We don't get "teacher appreciation week" here. I'm rather glad, in fact. If we appreciate a teacher, we do this sort of thing anyway. And if we don't - well, it saves either hypocrisy or embarrassment.</p><p></p><p>I sometimes had to work really hard to stay on good terms with difficult child 3's teachers. Sometimes it was easy, because I could see how hard they wee trying too. At other times it was very difficult because I know them all personally and I know who are the really lazy, posterior-covering types who only did more damage to difficult child 3 in their zeal to do as little as possible. In a lot of those cases, they had also taught easy child and/or difficult child 1 (yes, they have been at this school that long!) and we'd had problems then, too. Especially with easy child, who hated being bored at school, and these teachers did absolutely nothing to keep her active brain stimulated. How on earth would I feel, if I got a letter home asking me to show my appreciation? And what sort of message would it be sending my child? Mind you, I always have done my best to not let my child see how I really feel about their teacher. It's hard enough having to walk such a tightrope and maintain some integrity. Interestingly, now these older kids are adults, they express their opinions very firmly. When difficult child 3 got the same teachers, easy child & difficult child 1 were both saying, "You have to move him out of that school, Mum." Which of course we eventually did - first to a school where the class teacher was a gem, and for whom I showed appreciation as often as possible; and then to the current correspondence school.</p><p></p><p>One thing I have always done, though - I made it clear that I know having my little treasure of a difficult child in their class is a strain, even for the lazy ones. So I supplied them with jokes. We get a lot of good jokes sent to us (husband posted on in Healthful Living a few days ago, about Meaty Bites) and I would collect the best to personally deliver to the teacher's staffroom. There is no way I would send THESE in with a child, these jokes can be a bit too naughty. But naughty or not - they had to be funny as well.</p><p></p><p>Despite how I have felt about the worst teachers, they do have a good sense of humour, and this has turned out to be our common ground. One of them came to me in a mix of shock and humour, when easy child told him a rather risque limerick (she was 8 at the time). She'd been coming home with the typical lavatory 'humour' of young children and I had explained to her that dirty words are not funny in themselves. If you want to include them in a joke, the joke has to need them for its humour to make their use justified. If you could tell the joke without the toilet words, I said, then the joke doesn't need it and should go without. She should only use such words if the joke couldn't do without, and the joke had to be REALLY funny to justify it.</p><p>That's how I told her the limerick - as an explanation. I had never expected her to tell it to her teacher when they were studying limericks in class!</p><p>"There was a young man from Australia, </p><p>Who painted his rear like a dahlia.</p><p>The texture was fine,</p><p>Likewise the design,</p><p>But the smell on the whole was a failure."</p><p></p><p>easy child liked the pun in the last line especially. The teacher - he liked it once he realised why I'd told it to her, and ever since then I have been supplying him and the rest of the staff with humour.</p><p></p><p>(by the way - we normally do pronounce "dahlia" to rhyme with "Australia".)</p><p></p><p>So, to cut a long story short (too late! they cried) - send in some jokes, in a plain brown envelope, marked "Staff - eyes only".</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 152016, member: 1991"] We don't get "teacher appreciation week" here. I'm rather glad, in fact. If we appreciate a teacher, we do this sort of thing anyway. And if we don't - well, it saves either hypocrisy or embarrassment. I sometimes had to work really hard to stay on good terms with difficult child 3's teachers. Sometimes it was easy, because I could see how hard they wee trying too. At other times it was very difficult because I know them all personally and I know who are the really lazy, posterior-covering types who only did more damage to difficult child 3 in their zeal to do as little as possible. In a lot of those cases, they had also taught easy child and/or difficult child 1 (yes, they have been at this school that long!) and we'd had problems then, too. Especially with easy child, who hated being bored at school, and these teachers did absolutely nothing to keep her active brain stimulated. How on earth would I feel, if I got a letter home asking me to show my appreciation? And what sort of message would it be sending my child? Mind you, I always have done my best to not let my child see how I really feel about their teacher. It's hard enough having to walk such a tightrope and maintain some integrity. Interestingly, now these older kids are adults, they express their opinions very firmly. When difficult child 3 got the same teachers, easy child & difficult child 1 were both saying, "You have to move him out of that school, Mum." Which of course we eventually did - first to a school where the class teacher was a gem, and for whom I showed appreciation as often as possible; and then to the current correspondence school. One thing I have always done, though - I made it clear that I know having my little treasure of a difficult child in their class is a strain, even for the lazy ones. So I supplied them with jokes. We get a lot of good jokes sent to us (husband posted on in Healthful Living a few days ago, about Meaty Bites) and I would collect the best to personally deliver to the teacher's staffroom. There is no way I would send THESE in with a child, these jokes can be a bit too naughty. But naughty or not - they had to be funny as well. Despite how I have felt about the worst teachers, they do have a good sense of humour, and this has turned out to be our common ground. One of them came to me in a mix of shock and humour, when easy child told him a rather risque limerick (she was 8 at the time). She'd been coming home with the typical lavatory 'humour' of young children and I had explained to her that dirty words are not funny in themselves. If you want to include them in a joke, the joke has to need them for its humour to make their use justified. If you could tell the joke without the toilet words, I said, then the joke doesn't need it and should go without. She should only use such words if the joke couldn't do without, and the joke had to be REALLY funny to justify it. That's how I told her the limerick - as an explanation. I had never expected her to tell it to her teacher when they were studying limericks in class! "There was a young man from Australia, Who painted his rear like a dahlia. The texture was fine, Likewise the design, But the smell on the whole was a failure." easy child liked the pun in the last line especially. The teacher - he liked it once he realised why I'd told it to her, and ever since then I have been supplying him and the rest of the staff with humour. (by the way - we normally do pronounce "dahlia" to rhyme with "Australia".) So, to cut a long story short (too late! they cried) - send in some jokes, in a plain brown envelope, marked "Staff - eyes only". Marg [/QUOTE]
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