i came home today after difficult child's therapist appointment. to find boyfriend's daughter had written her named on our living room wall in pink marker (not washable marker). Upset doesnt' even begin to explain how i felt. my difficult child does not do these things, nor does my easy child. yet this isn't the first time this has occured, yet now we are in the new home. yea yea i know id have to be totally dillussional thinking of taking his 3 kids on anytime soon. so there are house rules yet i dont' think their getting it. i feel badly that i have to post this because i dont' want difficult child to think she has done anything wrong because lately she's been handling things fairly well and our meltdowns are down to like 4 a day which for us is great. some days are worse, yet shes' polite would never dream of writing on a wall ever. so i wrote house rules up just now. basics no name calling, or hitting, or pushing, no writing on walls or furniture, clean up toys, no sneaking snacks, be respectful, use your words. the only conclusion i can come to is that they are allowed to do this at their home.