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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 395765" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Lisa, I am a big believer that if a child wants to change that I will do what I need to help them. I found that my difficult child can tell you how to do things or state goals but truthfully, doesn't have a clue how to actually accomplish them unless they are written step by step. </p><p>At this point, she is a bad mom, daughter, woman or whatever but that doesn't mean she can't clean up her act. With a safety net of you and husband and your children she can become the woman she wants to be and not just talk about how she failed. </p><p>I don't think your daughter thinks like you or your daughters. Something has impaired her from developing the skills she needs to function better than she is. </p><p></p><p>One of the most adult things I learned was realizing when I was wrong, admitting it to myself and those around me and apologizing or change my behavior. It's incredibly freeing isn't it? Good for you for finding a reason to reach out. You know she is going to let you down and slide backwards over and over but if she makes baby steps forward each time, then that's progress. As you say, you are used to Travis. It takes a lot of repetition to move those icebergs. </p><p>Have a wonderful holiday with your family and I hope those kids start to see signs of stability in the new year.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 395765, member: 3"] Lisa, I am a big believer that if a child wants to change that I will do what I need to help them. I found that my difficult child can tell you how to do things or state goals but truthfully, doesn't have a clue how to actually accomplish them unless they are written step by step. At this point, she is a bad mom, daughter, woman or whatever but that doesn't mean she can't clean up her act. With a safety net of you and husband and your children she can become the woman she wants to be and not just talk about how she failed. I don't think your daughter thinks like you or your daughters. Something has impaired her from developing the skills she needs to function better than she is. One of the most adult things I learned was realizing when I was wrong, admitting it to myself and those around me and apologizing or change my behavior. It's incredibly freeing isn't it? Good for you for finding a reason to reach out. You know she is going to let you down and slide backwards over and over but if she makes baby steps forward each time, then that's progress. As you say, you are used to Travis. It takes a lot of repetition to move those icebergs. Have a wonderful holiday with your family and I hope those kids start to see signs of stability in the new year. [/QUOTE]
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