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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 199774" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Ah, Heather ~ a $200 costume. Must be nice to know that the world revolves around you & caters to your whims or you'd cry & your feelings will be hurt.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">kt & wm got to this point - anything that came out of their mouths was rude & hurtful. I put a new rule into place (an oldie, but a goodie) - if you cannot say anything nice, don't say anything at all. I printed out this phrase in a big beautiful font & hung it on the kitchen bulletin board.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I shut down immediately if either of the tweedles (still do for wm) was rude, acting entitled, or just plain nasty or sassy & pointed at the rule. If & when I rec'd an appropriate apology would I give kt & wm my undivided attention once again. Depending on my whim, we discussed the rudeness immediately or a bit later with dad. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I have a few key statements I still use with the tweedles when they are acting the drama queen or king; or just plain rude.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">"Excuse me!"</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">"Thank you for sharing"</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">"I appreciate knowing that"</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">"Is this working for you?"</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Short, sweet & to the point. After that I said nothing until I heard a sincere apology & how they would practice stopping & thinking before speaking. The tweedles have learned (over the years) that words are powerful ~ you can apolgize for what's been said, you may be forgiven for what you've said. However, mean rude words & behaviors are seldom forgotten & that has an impact on every relationship in their lives. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 199774, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Ah, Heather ~ a $200 costume. Must be nice to know that the world revolves around you & caters to your whims or you'd cry & your feelings will be hurt. kt & wm got to this point - anything that came out of their mouths was rude & hurtful. I put a new rule into place (an oldie, but a goodie) - if you cannot say anything nice, don't say anything at all. I printed out this phrase in a big beautiful font & hung it on the kitchen bulletin board. I shut down immediately if either of the tweedles (still do for wm) was rude, acting entitled, or just plain nasty or sassy & pointed at the rule. If & when I rec'd an appropriate apology would I give kt & wm my undivided attention once again. Depending on my whim, we discussed the rudeness immediately or a bit later with dad. I have a few key statements I still use with the tweedles when they are acting the drama queen or king; or just plain rude. "Excuse me!" "Thank you for sharing" "I appreciate knowing that" "Is this working for you?" Short, sweet & to the point. After that I said nothing until I heard a sincere apology & how they would practice stopping & thinking before speaking. The tweedles have learned (over the years) that words are powerful ~ you can apolgize for what's been said, you may be forgiven for what you've said. However, mean rude words & behaviors are seldom forgotten & that has an impact on every relationship in their lives. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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