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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 380925" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome DeAnna.</p><p> </p><p>I hate it when teachers diagnosis kids and say they need medication.</p><p>Even if they are right.</p><p> </p><p>Something is different about school than it is at home. Some kind of stressor ... competition, noise level, personality clashes ... I would set up a meeting with-the teachers and make them tell you very specifically what happened to provoke the choking incident. Something preceded it. If your son had a serious mental health issue like schizophrenia or something, you would have seen it by now.</p><p> </p><p>It is possible that your son has anxiety issues, perfectionism issues, sensory issues, you name it. But I would set up a dr appointment with-a pediatric psychologist first, b4 you put him on medications, to get a good idea of what's going on. It sounds like he's easily angered and filled with-anxiety but he can still pull off the academic work, which shows that whatever is going on is contained, if you Know what I mean?. If he's medicated too quickly, the doctors can't tell what is going on. </p><p> </p><p>You may end up going through a long series of tests, but you will figure out something. In the meantime, get the teachers on your side. Tell them that you have a background with-spec needs kids and you want to be a team. Don't act like you're a know-it-all (even if you're way smarter than they are, which you probably are, LOL!) because they will team up against you. You want them to work <em>with</em> you, to benefit your son. (IOW, it can be personal and political.) </p><p> </p><p>I don't know what provoked the strangling incident, but at the risk of being Pollyanna, I can tell you one story about my son. When he was in kindergarten, he was constantly harassing another kid. The kid was very noodley (no muscle tone, wobbly, flimsy joints) and always seemed to have a cast on one body part or another. One day he tackled the other kid and it was a miracle that no bones were broken. The kid's mom stopped me in the pkng lot one day and introduced herself. She told me that her son had a disease where his bones were very brittle (I already figured that out but it was nice of her to tell me) and that my son was way too rough. She couldn't tell if he was being mean or just being a boy. I asked difficult child and he said, "No, we were playing."</p><p>I took him at his word and had him stand there and listen while we talked. She said that difficult child was welcome to play with-her son, but that he had a physical problem and they could not play roughly. difficult child understood.</p><p>Turned out that because this kid had so many problems, he also had no friends. Kids, even at that young age, thought he was a nerd. difficult child was his only friend. They turned out to be great friends that yr and it was wonderful.</p><p> </p><p>Maybe ... </p><p> </p><p>Just saying ...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 380925, member: 3419"] Welcome DeAnna. I hate it when teachers diagnosis kids and say they need medication. Even if they are right. Something is different about school than it is at home. Some kind of stressor ... competition, noise level, personality clashes ... I would set up a meeting with-the teachers and make them tell you very specifically what happened to provoke the choking incident. Something preceded it. If your son had a serious mental health issue like schizophrenia or something, you would have seen it by now. It is possible that your son has anxiety issues, perfectionism issues, sensory issues, you name it. But I would set up a dr appointment with-a pediatric psychologist first, b4 you put him on medications, to get a good idea of what's going on. It sounds like he's easily angered and filled with-anxiety but he can still pull off the academic work, which shows that whatever is going on is contained, if you Know what I mean?. If he's medicated too quickly, the doctors can't tell what is going on. You may end up going through a long series of tests, but you will figure out something. In the meantime, get the teachers on your side. Tell them that you have a background with-spec needs kids and you want to be a team. Don't act like you're a know-it-all (even if you're way smarter than they are, which you probably are, LOL!) because they will team up against you. You want them to work [I]with[/I] you, to benefit your son. (IOW, it can be personal and political.) I don't know what provoked the strangling incident, but at the risk of being Pollyanna, I can tell you one story about my son. When he was in kindergarten, he was constantly harassing another kid. The kid was very noodley (no muscle tone, wobbly, flimsy joints) and always seemed to have a cast on one body part or another. One day he tackled the other kid and it was a miracle that no bones were broken. The kid's mom stopped me in the pkng lot one day and introduced herself. She told me that her son had a disease where his bones were very brittle (I already figured that out but it was nice of her to tell me) and that my son was way too rough. She couldn't tell if he was being mean or just being a boy. I asked difficult child and he said, "No, we were playing." I took him at his word and had him stand there and listen while we talked. She said that difficult child was welcome to play with-her son, but that he had a physical problem and they could not play roughly. difficult child understood. Turned out that because this kid had so many problems, he also had no friends. Kids, even at that young age, thought he was a nerd. difficult child was his only friend. They turned out to be great friends that yr and it was wonderful. Maybe ... Just saying ... [/QUOTE]
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