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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 130538" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>I feel your pain...or at least I used to. At one point I had a newborn in a carseat and 2 year old difficult child to manage while taking my 5 year in and out of pre-K. There were alphabet letters and words all over that room, including the ABC's stenciled all around the perimeter. I used to haul the baby in one arm and him howling and fighting under the other. I miss a lot of things about having little ones in the house...but this isn't one of them!</p><p> </p><p>G&T, this is really where you have to know your kid. I wish praise would have worked for us but the more praise I threw in difficult child's direction, the more he resisted because it felt wrong for him to be pleasing me. Lucky you though! To this day I still only rarely revoke priveleges because it tend to make the situation more explosive than less, and I can't get any lesson taught. He does better taking consequences at school, though, but he recognizes the peer pressure need to respond appropriately there.</p><p> </p><p>Lulu, you might try offering the natural flavored lolly or a small juice box as soon as you take that step out the classroom door. Use it as a distraction instead of reward and see if that works better. Sipping and sucking are sensory calming.</p><p> </p><p>When verbal commands aren't getting the job done, it's always worth exploring different ways to accomplish your goals. At this point you truly don't know the neurological reasons for the defiance but since there seems to be some suggestions leaning in the direction of AS, these would be some things for you to try out of that camp:</p><p> </p><p>Have you tried making a list to hand him as you leave the classroom (whiteboard, or laminate a small card), or better yet for the teachers to post by where he hangs his stuff? </p><p>1) Put on coat.</p><p>2) Walk to car.</p><p>3) Buckle in.</p><p>4) Home for video (lunch or whatever)</p><p> </p><p>Some kids respond remarkably well to written lists, when they would have ignored </p><p> </p><p>Given the other traits you've described, I think it might be worth checking into social stories. These are stories you create yourself about the child in various life situations in order to help them understand what is expected or appropriate. There are lots of variations so here's the google search:</p><p><a href="http://www.google.com/search?q=social+stories&rls=com.microsoft:*:IE-SearchBox&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&sourceid=ie7&rlz=1I7DKUS" target="_blank">http://www.google.com/search?q=social+stories&rls=com.microsoft:*:IE-SearchBox&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&sourceid=ie7&rlz=1I7DKUS</a></p><p> </p><p>I don't know if there's anything here that would be suitable but I have heard rave reviews about the Model Me Kids dvd's, including the school one.</p><p><a href="http://www.modelmekids.com/" target="_blank">http://www.modelmekids.com/</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 130538, member: 701"] I feel your pain...or at least I used to. At one point I had a newborn in a carseat and 2 year old difficult child to manage while taking my 5 year in and out of pre-K. There were alphabet letters and words all over that room, including the ABC's stenciled all around the perimeter. I used to haul the baby in one arm and him howling and fighting under the other. I miss a lot of things about having little ones in the house...but this isn't one of them! G&T, this is really where you have to know your kid. I wish praise would have worked for us but the more praise I threw in difficult child's direction, the more he resisted because it felt wrong for him to be pleasing me. Lucky you though! To this day I still only rarely revoke priveleges because it tend to make the situation more explosive than less, and I can't get any lesson taught. He does better taking consequences at school, though, but he recognizes the peer pressure need to respond appropriately there. Lulu, you might try offering the natural flavored lolly or a small juice box as soon as you take that step out the classroom door. Use it as a distraction instead of reward and see if that works better. Sipping and sucking are sensory calming. When verbal commands aren't getting the job done, it's always worth exploring different ways to accomplish your goals. At this point you truly don't know the neurological reasons for the defiance but since there seems to be some suggestions leaning in the direction of AS, these would be some things for you to try out of that camp: Have you tried making a list to hand him as you leave the classroom (whiteboard, or laminate a small card), or better yet for the teachers to post by where he hangs his stuff? 1) Put on coat. 2) Walk to car. 3) Buckle in. 4) Home for video (lunch or whatever) Some kids respond remarkably well to written lists, when they would have ignored Given the other traits you've described, I think it might be worth checking into social stories. These are stories you create yourself about the child in various life situations in order to help them understand what is expected or appropriate. There are lots of variations so here's the google search: [URL]http://www.google.com/search?q=social+stories&rls=com.microsoft:*:IE-SearchBox&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&sourceid=ie7&rlz=1I7DKUS[/URL] I don't know if there's anything here that would be suitable but I have heard rave reviews about the Model Me Kids dvd's, including the school one. [URL]http://www.modelmekids.com/[/URL] [/QUOTE]
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