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<blockquote data-quote="Lulu" data-source="post: 132321" data-attributes="member: 4493"><p>Star*, LOL. If he were on skis, he'd be two miles away before I could gather up the girl and chase after him.</p><p></p><p>Smallworld, I will try that phrase. I kind of already use it when we leave tough places, but it's hit or miss. I use the 10 minutes left, 5 minutes left, 3, 2, 1, we're outa here. And in between there I note that he can play with one more toy, and then at about 2 minutes if we're at a home or school, it's time to put the toy away and say goodbye, etc. Sigh. So tiring.</p><p></p><p>Susiestar, we are headed to the behavioral clinic at the local children's hospital later in March to see where they think we should go. Good point about the health issues, he won't have another visit until his checkup at his fifth b-day. He is a very healthy little dude. But I am looking into more dietary changes, the more I read about additives, gluten, casein, etc. Since he's gone off artifical dyes, we see fewer meltdowns, I think. I don't think he has Sensory Integration Disorder (SID); he doesn't show the major symptoms that I know about (food preferences, clothing issues, stimulating behaviors, fear of or attraction to noises), but I will go look at some more checklists to get a better idea. That said, I will check out that book anyway, since ideas to ease transitions are MUCH needed. As to just putting him in his car seat and buckling him in, the first problem is getting him out of the classroom. Sometimes we don't even make it to the car until fifteen or twenty minutes later, and he's by then a dervish. We went through a long period of him squeezing himself into the foot so that I couldn't get him out. I cannot manhandle him into his seat (44-ish lbs), and even if he gets in and I buckle him up, he unbuckles himself if he wishes to be free. Sometimes I actually have sat in the front seat and just laughed at the absurdity of it all. I guess "futility" is the better word. Thanks for the ideas and the references.</p><p></p><p>SRL, a couple days this week were better at school, but we still had a heckofa time leaving our playdate's house Wed. N took a swing at me and tore through her dining room and kitchen to get away. Yesterday, I stressed to N that a pleasant walk down the hall and into the car to go home would mean he could play on the computer that afternoon. Not behaving (and we went over what that meant) would result in NO computer the rest of the day. Well, we got halfway down the hall and then he started running away. He got one warning to come back or no computer, and he just sped up. Then I announced "no computer today" and he opened the door and ran out into the lobby without me. So, hearing the consequence still means little to him, but then living it once we were home meant quite a bit. I have been able to distract him with a fruit leather several days. Today, on the way home in the car, he threw a party blower at me when I said he couldn't have a lollipop. He is coming to expect the sweets in the car, I fear. Can't win with this one.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and about puddles--I have let BOTH children choose a puddle and jump in it in the preschool parking lot. I'm afraid that was a mistake, because now they both DART for the puddles immediately. More sighs.</p><p></p><p>THanks so much ladies. Keep those ideas coming. And the support means so much. I write a lot, for which I apologize, but it helps me organize the thoughts in my mind, and it also allows me to unload, since no one in my family or circle of friends understands/wants to hear this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lulu, post: 132321, member: 4493"] Star*, LOL. If he were on skis, he'd be two miles away before I could gather up the girl and chase after him. Smallworld, I will try that phrase. I kind of already use it when we leave tough places, but it's hit or miss. I use the 10 minutes left, 5 minutes left, 3, 2, 1, we're outa here. And in between there I note that he can play with one more toy, and then at about 2 minutes if we're at a home or school, it's time to put the toy away and say goodbye, etc. Sigh. So tiring. Susiestar, we are headed to the behavioral clinic at the local children's hospital later in March to see where they think we should go. Good point about the health issues, he won't have another visit until his checkup at his fifth b-day. He is a very healthy little dude. But I am looking into more dietary changes, the more I read about additives, gluten, casein, etc. Since he's gone off artifical dyes, we see fewer meltdowns, I think. I don't think he has Sensory Integration Disorder (SID); he doesn't show the major symptoms that I know about (food preferences, clothing issues, stimulating behaviors, fear of or attraction to noises), but I will go look at some more checklists to get a better idea. That said, I will check out that book anyway, since ideas to ease transitions are MUCH needed. As to just putting him in his car seat and buckling him in, the first problem is getting him out of the classroom. Sometimes we don't even make it to the car until fifteen or twenty minutes later, and he's by then a dervish. We went through a long period of him squeezing himself into the foot so that I couldn't get him out. I cannot manhandle him into his seat (44-ish lbs), and even if he gets in and I buckle him up, he unbuckles himself if he wishes to be free. Sometimes I actually have sat in the front seat and just laughed at the absurdity of it all. I guess "futility" is the better word. Thanks for the ideas and the references. SRL, a couple days this week were better at school, but we still had a heckofa time leaving our playdate's house Wed. N took a swing at me and tore through her dining room and kitchen to get away. Yesterday, I stressed to N that a pleasant walk down the hall and into the car to go home would mean he could play on the computer that afternoon. Not behaving (and we went over what that meant) would result in NO computer the rest of the day. Well, we got halfway down the hall and then he started running away. He got one warning to come back or no computer, and he just sped up. Then I announced "no computer today" and he opened the door and ran out into the lobby without me. So, hearing the consequence still means little to him, but then living it once we were home meant quite a bit. I have been able to distract him with a fruit leather several days. Today, on the way home in the car, he threw a party blower at me when I said he couldn't have a lollipop. He is coming to expect the sweets in the car, I fear. Can't win with this one. Oh, and about puddles--I have let BOTH children choose a puddle and jump in it in the preschool parking lot. I'm afraid that was a mistake, because now they both DART for the puddles immediately. More sighs. THanks so much ladies. Keep those ideas coming. And the support means so much. I write a lot, for which I apologize, but it helps me organize the thoughts in my mind, and it also allows me to unload, since no one in my family or circle of friends understands/wants to hear this. [/QUOTE]
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