BKS
New Member
Christmas Question:
We asked our 19 year old son to leave in October and he landed at a friends house that is always teaming with alcohol and/or drugs of all sorts. Our family is spending Christmas at my mother's (an hour away) and her house is << sigh >> full of booze. She likes to drink and feels that there is too much alcohol in her house to try to go to the trouble of hiding it when my son (who we have told her has these issues) visits. (This is an issue unto itself.)
Question: If my son spends Christmas eve night with the rest of the family, how do you thing we should deal with the alcohol issue? It would be for two nights at the most.
This is all new to us as we continue to pray that this is a 'stage' in his life that he is going through and that he will wake up and start doing something constructive with his life - by first getting and keeping a job.
Best,
BKS
We asked our 19 year old son to leave in October and he landed at a friends house that is always teaming with alcohol and/or drugs of all sorts. Our family is spending Christmas at my mother's (an hour away) and her house is << sigh >> full of booze. She likes to drink and feels that there is too much alcohol in her house to try to go to the trouble of hiding it when my son (who we have told her has these issues) visits. (This is an issue unto itself.)
Question: If my son spends Christmas eve night with the rest of the family, how do you thing we should deal with the alcohol issue? It would be for two nights at the most.
- My husband and I could keep a close eye on him (not a fun way for us to spend the holiday).
- We could tell him it is illegal to drink in the state where my mother lives and to please honor this.
- We could tell him we won't tolerate any substance abuse while at his grandmothers. (Which he could easily play off as an insult and this would start the ball rolling down hill on this family visit with him.)
This is all new to us as we continue to pray that this is a 'stage' in his life that he is going through and that he will wake up and start doing something constructive with his life - by first getting and keeping a job.
Best,
BKS