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To Adopt or Not to Adopt---That is the question!
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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 108017" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>I don't have children with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) but I want to let you know how glad I am that you're here. Those that have responded have given you excellent, heart-felt advice. I can't comment on what it is like to raise a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). However I do have two difficult children, both with Asperger's and one with bipolar too. I can comment on what it is like to raise difficult children in general terms.</p><p></p><p>I feel much like DDD when she said, "the spontaneous joy has been sucked out of our home." I also understand and feel the same way she does about not feeling relaxed in my own home. Raising children in general is challenging at times, but in my humble opinion, raising difficult children is challenging ALL of the time. </p><p></p><p>Raising difficult children causes lots of chaos and, in my humble opinion, has a negative impact on each and every family member. Our home life has to be organized around my difficult children's needs. This isn't to say that I don't love my difficult children. I love them with all my heart and try my best to get them the services and supports they need. More than anything else, I want them to be happy, productive, self-sufficient (to the extent they can be), members of society.</p><p></p><p>However, trying to obtain appropriate services and supports can at times, be a full time job in itself. It is emotionally draining. As others have already said, it takes a toll on siblings and marriages.</p><p> </p><p>Much of your personal life becomes an open book when having to deal with psychiatrists, tdocs, social workers, etc. who are trying to help you help raise your difficult children. Another CD member once said it takes a village to raise a difficult child. This statement is so true!!! You lose a great deal of privacy.</p><p></p><p>Personally, if I knew beforehand what it would be like to raise difficult children, and had a choice, I wouldn't do it. I know this sounds cruel and heartless. However, this is how I really feel. I wouldn't feel right responding to your post if I didn't say this.</p><p></p><p>You are in a tough position. You have so much to think about. Please know, that whatever decision you make, we are here to support you. And, if you decide to adopt, I really can't find the words to tell you what a kind and generous and selfless person you are...WFEN</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 108017, member: 3388"] I don't have children with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) but I want to let you know how glad I am that you're here. Those that have responded have given you excellent, heart-felt advice. I can't comment on what it is like to raise a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). However I do have two difficult children, both with Asperger's and one with bipolar too. I can comment on what it is like to raise difficult children in general terms. I feel much like DDD when she said, "the spontaneous joy has been sucked out of our home." I also understand and feel the same way she does about not feeling relaxed in my own home. Raising children in general is challenging at times, but in my humble opinion, raising difficult children is challenging ALL of the time. Raising difficult children causes lots of chaos and, in my humble opinion, has a negative impact on each and every family member. Our home life has to be organized around my difficult children's needs. This isn't to say that I don't love my difficult children. I love them with all my heart and try my best to get them the services and supports they need. More than anything else, I want them to be happy, productive, self-sufficient (to the extent they can be), members of society. However, trying to obtain appropriate services and supports can at times, be a full time job in itself. It is emotionally draining. As others have already said, it takes a toll on siblings and marriages. Much of your personal life becomes an open book when having to deal with psychiatrists, tdocs, social workers, etc. who are trying to help you help raise your difficult children. Another CD member once said it takes a village to raise a difficult child. This statement is so true!!! You lose a great deal of privacy. Personally, if I knew beforehand what it would be like to raise difficult children, and had a choice, I wouldn't do it. I know this sounds cruel and heartless. However, this is how I really feel. I wouldn't feel right responding to your post if I didn't say this. You are in a tough position. You have so much to think about. Please know, that whatever decision you make, we are here to support you. And, if you decide to adopt, I really can't find the words to tell you what a kind and generous and selfless person you are...WFEN [/QUOTE]
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