We usually go to Florida for 2-3 weeks almost every Christmas. We take the kids, do theme parks, beach etc.. It is very relaxing and one of the few times my husband can get away and not lose a ton of money at work (he is self employed). difficult child had a pediatrician appointment. yesterday and before the appointment I told him we weren't sure if we were still going because husband is very busy with work but if we were going was he thinking of coming with us? He said "No. Even when I was still living with you I didn't want to go with you. I don't want to spend Christmas with you because it always turns into a fight." This isn't true at all but his thinking is distorted so I didn't take the bait. Sooooo, part of me feels horrible about the prospect of going on a holiday and not being here for my son. I've obviously never spent a Christmas apart from him and it doesn't feel good - even though he says he doesn't want to see us. Another part of me thinks we should go. Why disappoint easy child because of difficult child, we NEED this vacation because of all the stress we've been under dealing with difficult child. So - go or don't go?