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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 329129" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>We did talk about the fact that the cattery would mean I'd have to be here, but husband didn't see it as a problem. I guess because he was unable to go anywhere due to short-staffing, he figured it would be fine. We also put more of our nest egg into our house and property with the explicit idea that our country home would be our 'vacation', husband's refuge to come home to each night and my long-term project; when we bought this property we decided we wouldn't have a lot of travel as a goal for our later years. Now, as soon as there's some respite in the work schedule, husband wants to go for last-minute trips here and there. I didn't go with him last fall for a six-day trip because my first litter of kittens was only ten days old and had been sick - in fact I lost two out of the litter. I didn't want to leave that responsibility to my daughter. He went on his own and wasn't very happy about it - but again, he made the plans three weeks prior, just before my queen had her kittens, and then the queen needed a LOT of support. </p><p></p><p>As for your second question .... I think he doesn't see me in terms of having a career, sadly. Even though I'm also an MD he's gotten used to me being home, always available, always accommodating, over the years. It's been that way because I decided I had to stop practicing due to the kids' conditions (more than just difficult child had health issues, and even our TSS people couldn't begin to handle difficult child. There was no one I could get to stay with him). At the beginning of our marriage husband totally respected my professional status and everything was on an equal footing between us, but over 20 years of me being the one always available, other habits crept in. Now it's painful to change things. I guess if I'd chosen a more lucrative business he might understand more easily ... I don't know.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 329129, member: 2884"] We did talk about the fact that the cattery would mean I'd have to be here, but husband didn't see it as a problem. I guess because he was unable to go anywhere due to short-staffing, he figured it would be fine. We also put more of our nest egg into our house and property with the explicit idea that our country home would be our 'vacation', husband's refuge to come home to each night and my long-term project; when we bought this property we decided we wouldn't have a lot of travel as a goal for our later years. Now, as soon as there's some respite in the work schedule, husband wants to go for last-minute trips here and there. I didn't go with him last fall for a six-day trip because my first litter of kittens was only ten days old and had been sick - in fact I lost two out of the litter. I didn't want to leave that responsibility to my daughter. He went on his own and wasn't very happy about it - but again, he made the plans three weeks prior, just before my queen had her kittens, and then the queen needed a LOT of support. As for your second question .... I think he doesn't see me in terms of having a career, sadly. Even though I'm also an MD he's gotten used to me being home, always available, always accommodating, over the years. It's been that way because I decided I had to stop practicing due to the kids' conditions (more than just difficult child had health issues, and even our TSS people couldn't begin to handle difficult child. There was no one I could get to stay with him). At the beginning of our marriage husband totally respected my professional status and everything was on an equal footing between us, but over 20 years of me being the one always available, other habits crept in. Now it's painful to change things. I guess if I'd chosen a more lucrative business he might understand more easily ... I don't know. [/QUOTE]
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