To Let Go

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Albatross, Apr 12, 2014.

  1. Albatross

    Albatross Well-Known Member

    TO “LET GO” TAKES LOVE

    by author unknown

    To “let go” does not mean to stop caring,
    it means I can’t do it for someone else.

    To “let go” is not to cut myself off,
    it is the realization I can’t control another.

    To “let go” is not to enable,
    but to allow learning from natural consequences.

    To “let go” is to admit powerlessness,
    which means that the outcome is not in my hands.

    To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another,
    it is to make the most of myself.

    To “let go” is not to care for,
    but to care about.

    To “let go” is not to fix,
    but to be supportive.

    To “let go” is not to judge,
    but to allow another to be a human being.

    To “let go” is not to be in the middle, arranging the outcomes,
    but to allow others to affect their own destinies,

    To “let go” is not to be protective,
    but to permit another to face reality.

    To “let go” is not to deny,
    but to accept.

    To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue,
    but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.

    To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires,
    but to take every day as it comes, and to cherish myself in it.

    To “let go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody,
    but to try to become what I dream I can be.

    To “let go” is not to regret the past,
    but to grow and live for the future.

    To “let go” is to fear less and love more.
     
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  2. Terryforvols

    Terryforvols Member

    The hardest things to do with a difficult child!!!

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  3. Nomad

    Nomad Well-Known Member

    I like this poem called "let go," and actually abide by it. I have to. I had to. I have a fair amount of peace with reference to our difficult child. She is coming for Easter dinner. We will get her to a hair salon because she doesn't wash her hair regularly or brush it for that matter and both she and my husband and I wish for her to look nice for Easter. Sigh. I found one that is open half day and made her an appointment. She is fine with that. There are many oddities, incongruities, and difficulties. They use to bother me and they don't particularly bother me today. I have accepted them, by and large. Again, I have to...I had to. However, I am a human being. No machine typing this. I have my moments. I understand intellectually that her inability to take care of herself, to understand cause and effect reasoning....etc., is dangerous. I hope and pray for the best. But, I have my moments. I don't understand how my best efforts when she was younger did not lead to a better outcome. Sigh. But, it is what it is. I'll never fully understand. But, letting go, was not an option. It was the ONLY way. I can NOT control an adult human being. What will be, will be. I move on.
     
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