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To Surrender or Not...My 2 yr old
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 750386" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>OK I have no idea how things work in your state but through my past job I did have an idea how things work with DSS in my state. First let me say no judgement from me, you really stepped up to the plate to care for this baby and are now facing financial issues and issues of the parents threatening you. That is not really acceptable and yes the court let DSS off the hook. You should be getting support from DSS, if not financially with daycare and in dealing with the parents. Really it is their responsibility to make sure this child is properly cared for.</p><p></p><p>So my thought is call DSS and ask to meet with them. Tell them the situation financially and with the parents have become unworkable for you. If you are to stay involved with this child you need DSS to take custody of the child. You would be willing to continue as a foster parent but you really cant continue as you are. They may threaten you with what happens if you surrender custody.... because if you have custody they are off the hook. And it is possible that if you surrender him they will take him and find other foster parents so that is a risk. BUT the reality is they need to find foster parents and that is not always easy so they could decide to let you keep fostering him. I dont know if this is what would happen but it really doesnt sound like you can continue as you are.... and ultimately you have to take care of yourself.</p><p></p><p>And how dare your nieces dad not step up. I have plenty of judgement of him!!</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 750386, member: 15801"] OK I have no idea how things work in your state but through my past job I did have an idea how things work with DSS in my state. First let me say no judgement from me, you really stepped up to the plate to care for this baby and are now facing financial issues and issues of the parents threatening you. That is not really acceptable and yes the court let DSS off the hook. You should be getting support from DSS, if not financially with daycare and in dealing with the parents. Really it is their responsibility to make sure this child is properly cared for. So my thought is call DSS and ask to meet with them. Tell them the situation financially and with the parents have become unworkable for you. If you are to stay involved with this child you need DSS to take custody of the child. You would be willing to continue as a foster parent but you really cant continue as you are. They may threaten you with what happens if you surrender custody.... because if you have custody they are off the hook. And it is possible that if you surrender him they will take him and find other foster parents so that is a risk. BUT the reality is they need to find foster parents and that is not always easy so they could decide to let you keep fostering him. I dont know if this is what would happen but it really doesnt sound like you can continue as you are.... and ultimately you have to take care of yourself. And how dare your nieces dad not step up. I have plenty of judgement of him!! TL [/QUOTE]
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