Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
To Tell the Truth
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 645428" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Yes, exactly. None of us get everything we needed. It's so hard to remember that, to remember that every human being out there had imperfect parents, just like my son did.</p><p></p><p>Darn it, my quote thingie isn't working again, but SS, yes, we remember these painful incidents and we move on. Even if it leaves a hard spot. We somehow accommodate it. And we even carry it forward with maybe a little more compassion. You might have WANTED to slap his face that day at school, but maybe you held back because you remembered. And somehow it ends up getting used against you. That double standard is a killer. I use it against myself. And my son uses it against me.</p><p></p><p>Now that I think about it, they tend to be good at finding our soft spots and blind spots. It makes sense that they would find these too, even if they are buried somewhere in our memory banks.</p><p></p><p>Does that sound paranoid?</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I wish my quote thingie was working.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, Lil, what you said about wondering what would have happened if I had been a little more outwardly seemingly disinterested kind of mom, or if we HADN'T found our soulmate...we can turn anything around to make it our fault, can't we?</p><p></p><p>Yes, maybe that's it! I was TOO interested! </p><p></p><p>Yes, maybe that's it! Jabber and I were TOO stable and loving!</p><p></p><p>Today I was remembering the young coworkers who thought I would be a cool mom and thought, maybe THAT'S why it's my fault. Maybe I was a COOL mom.</p><p></p><p>(I won't go into all the times I WASN'T a cool mom, and he would just disappear for days or weeks at a time.) </p><p></p><p>AppleCori, wow. Thanks. That was...wonderful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 645428, member: 17720"] Yes, exactly. None of us get everything we needed. It's so hard to remember that, to remember that every human being out there had imperfect parents, just like my son did. Darn it, my quote thingie isn't working again, but SS, yes, we remember these painful incidents and we move on. Even if it leaves a hard spot. We somehow accommodate it. And we even carry it forward with maybe a little more compassion. You might have WANTED to slap his face that day at school, but maybe you held back because you remembered. And somehow it ends up getting used against you. That double standard is a killer. I use it against myself. And my son uses it against me. Now that I think about it, they tend to be good at finding our soft spots and blind spots. It makes sense that they would find these too, even if they are buried somewhere in our memory banks. Does that sound paranoid? Anyway, I wish my quote thingie was working. Cedar, Lil, what you said about wondering what would have happened if I had been a little more outwardly seemingly disinterested kind of mom, or if we HADN'T found our soulmate...we can turn anything around to make it our fault, can't we? Yes, maybe that's it! I was TOO interested! Yes, maybe that's it! Jabber and I were TOO stable and loving! Today I was remembering the young coworkers who thought I would be a cool mom and thought, maybe THAT'S why it's my fault. Maybe I was a COOL mom. (I won't go into all the times I WASN'T a cool mom, and he would just disappear for days or weeks at a time.) AppleCori, wow. Thanks. That was...wonderful. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
To Tell the Truth
Top