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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 646004" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>HAHA!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I have a friend with a son my son's age. He was a difficult child when my son was a easy child. Looking in from the outside, there were "reasons" for his difficult child-ness as far as his home life. Then the boys hit their teen years and it all flipped. I don't know why. And she doesn't know why. One day when we were talking about my son's problems she said that if one looked at how our children were parented, HER son should be the one living in his car and battling alcoholism and MY son should be the one graduating from college with high honors. That helps, when friends can say (more than superficially and half jokingly) "This really IS fundamentally just a big ol' crap shoot sometimes." Those are the real friends, the ones who truly GET that.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Oh Cedar, that is such a lovely vision. It is hard to find that person, when she is buried under all the fear and shame and cynicism.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>HA! OK, it's actually ON MY FRIDGE! Right next to the one that says, "A year from now, what will you wish you had done today?"</p><p></p><p>I am picturing assembling our lives into something like a beautiful mosaic, built of all the little pieces of our love and hurt and shame and forgiveness and all of it...but it is just a pile of broken pieces. We don't know how it all fits together until we get the first piece set. Acknowledging it's crappola...first piece!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 646004, member: 17720"] HAHA! I have a friend with a son my son's age. He was a difficult child when my son was a easy child. Looking in from the outside, there were "reasons" for his difficult child-ness as far as his home life. Then the boys hit their teen years and it all flipped. I don't know why. And she doesn't know why. One day when we were talking about my son's problems she said that if one looked at how our children were parented, HER son should be the one living in his car and battling alcoholism and MY son should be the one graduating from college with high honors. That helps, when friends can say (more than superficially and half jokingly) "This really IS fundamentally just a big ol' crap shoot sometimes." Those are the real friends, the ones who truly GET that. Oh Cedar, that is such a lovely vision. It is hard to find that person, when she is buried under all the fear and shame and cynicism. HA! OK, it's actually ON MY FRIDGE! Right next to the one that says, "A year from now, what will you wish you had done today?" I am picturing assembling our lives into something like a beautiful mosaic, built of all the little pieces of our love and hurt and shame and forgiveness and all of it...but it is just a pile of broken pieces. We don't know how it all fits together until we get the first piece set. Acknowledging it's crappola...first piece! [/QUOTE]
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