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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 646463" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>An invaluable insight, MWM.</p><p></p><p>To remember that they do that. To think how scary and embarrassing it must be to have been the person who did that, and to know your own mom knows you said those words, made that threat or...if it was a manipulation of the exDH, to know that what you said has been made public, and to wonder whether your mom can still cherish and defend and believe in you, now that she knows.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for that, MWM. I do remember your posts from that time, and how weird that situation is, to love your child (beloved....) so much, and to be so shocked and afraid and angry, all at the same time.</p><p></p><p>And scared. I was pretty scared. We had been so certain last time that everything would be alright and it wasn't. That figured into this too. </p><p></p><p>PTSD so sucks.</p><p></p><p>In future, I will know that my response to my child should be to address it with her just as I have outlined it, here. That it must be scary for her to think these things, but that she can tell me, tell husband, tell <em>someone</em>, and that together, we will get ourselves and one another through it.</p><p></p><p>The situation has resolved almost ridiculously well.</p><p></p><p>difficult child daughter sounds very well, seems so stable it is weird to think how off the wall everything was such a short time ago. The exDH is applying for work. When he finds it, they will offer to buy the house they are living in now, which the grandmother does want to sell.</p><p></p><p>The fifteen year old daughter (sixteen in just a few days) is coming home.</p><p></p><p>There will be a set of challenges attending that, but there will also be another set of eyes and ears on the premises, and that is good.</p><p></p><p>The twenty-two year old daughter has returned to live for a time in the same general area where her mother is. She will be working two jobs and living independently and so on, but there is a second set of eyes and a place and a person now, to watch over everyone else if things get weird.</p><p></p><p>Most importantly, difficult child daughter seems fine. It is a little spooky how fine, but I am not going to borrow trouble, here.</p><p></p><p>I wrote this part of my post out in my journal, so I can refer to it quickly if anything bad happens so I can keep my wits about me, this time.</p><p></p><p>Thanks, everyone.</p><p></p><p>We got me through it.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 646463, member: 17461"] An invaluable insight, MWM. To remember that they do that. To think how scary and embarrassing it must be to have been the person who did that, and to know your own mom knows you said those words, made that threat or...if it was a manipulation of the exDH, to know that what you said has been made public, and to wonder whether your mom can still cherish and defend and believe in you, now that she knows. Thank you for that, MWM. I do remember your posts from that time, and how weird that situation is, to love your child (beloved....) so much, and to be so shocked and afraid and angry, all at the same time. And scared. I was pretty scared. We had been so certain last time that everything would be alright and it wasn't. That figured into this too. PTSD so sucks. In future, I will know that my response to my child should be to address it with her just as I have outlined it, here. That it must be scary for her to think these things, but that she can tell me, tell husband, tell [I]someone[/I], and that together, we will get ourselves and one another through it. The situation has resolved almost ridiculously well. difficult child daughter sounds very well, seems so stable it is weird to think how off the wall everything was such a short time ago. The exDH is applying for work. When he finds it, they will offer to buy the house they are living in now, which the grandmother does want to sell. The fifteen year old daughter (sixteen in just a few days) is coming home. There will be a set of challenges attending that, but there will also be another set of eyes and ears on the premises, and that is good. The twenty-two year old daughter has returned to live for a time in the same general area where her mother is. She will be working two jobs and living independently and so on, but there is a second set of eyes and a place and a person now, to watch over everyone else if things get weird. Most importantly, difficult child daughter seems fine. It is a little spooky how fine, but I am not going to borrow trouble, here. I wrote this part of my post out in my journal, so I can refer to it quickly if anything bad happens so I can keep my wits about me, this time. Thanks, everyone. We got me through it. :O) Cedar [/QUOTE]
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