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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 646790" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Take the door off, today.</p><p></p><p>Go in with a contractor trash bag and throw the worst of it out.</p><p></p><p>Vacuum the room, knowing that it may be remodeled into another purpose, or it may once more become difficult child's room. Let it be in limbo like you are, but let it be clean limbo.</p><p></p><p>That door, that smashed and disrespected door, has to go.</p><p></p><p>I love the idea of burning it.</p><p></p><p>You should know, Lil and Jabber, that damaged doors and filthy rooms and ruined carpets are par for the course with difficult child kids. Cleaning the room will be traumatic, will be incongruity, trebled. Football lamp and the empty shells of BIC pens used to do some kind of drug thing <em>right in his own room!</em> Lacey doll lamp, white provincial furniture and dirty words written in the closet in magic marker.</p><p></p><p>We had a thread here once, about how traumatic it was to clean the difficult child's room.</p><p></p><p>Do you put it back the way it was before things went wrong?</p><p></p><p>Do you change its purpose, entirely?</p><p></p><p>We are so tired and confused at first that we just leave it. That the broken door is bothering you is a sign of recovery.</p><p></p><p>Burn the door with Jabber.</p><p></p><p>Later, when you are ready, you can wear your pirate skirt to Lowe's and get another.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I am sorry this is happening.</p><p></p><p>You are strong enough. It doesn't feel like it now, but you will go on from here and life will be good again, with no sadness in it that you cannot put aside for a time.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 646790, member: 17461"] Take the door off, today. Go in with a contractor trash bag and throw the worst of it out. Vacuum the room, knowing that it may be remodeled into another purpose, or it may once more become difficult child's room. Let it be in limbo like you are, but let it be clean limbo. That door, that smashed and disrespected door, has to go. I love the idea of burning it. You should know, Lil and Jabber, that damaged doors and filthy rooms and ruined carpets are par for the course with difficult child kids. Cleaning the room will be traumatic, will be incongruity, trebled. Football lamp and the empty shells of BIC pens used to do some kind of drug thing [I]right in his own room![/I] Lacey doll lamp, white provincial furniture and dirty words written in the closet in magic marker. We had a thread here once, about how traumatic it was to clean the difficult child's room. Do you put it back the way it was before things went wrong? Do you change its purpose, entirely? We are so tired and confused at first that we just leave it. That the broken door is bothering you is a sign of recovery. Burn the door with Jabber. Later, when you are ready, you can wear your pirate skirt to Lowe's and get another. I am sorry this is happening. You are strong enough. It doesn't feel like it now, but you will go on from here and life will be good again, with no sadness in it that you cannot put aside for a time. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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