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Today's incident. What would you have done?
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 267100" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>A tip from me - pack a hamper for yourself. Make it clear you are set up to wait there for as long as it takes. A thermos, a nanna rug, a good book, your knitting - and, of course, your notebook, to diarise everything, to have your I's dotted & T's crossed. Have your feedback in writing and make it clear - you are going to wait for their response, in writing. Or the IEP meeting, whichever comes first.</p><p></p><p>Be prepared to be persuaded to leave if it becomes obvious you need to. But make them work for it. Then use your time away from there, to continue the fight.</p><p></p><p>I do understand your need to try to fix this - if you can get this so-so para gone, plus pretty boy to back right off (he's leaving anyway) then perhaps you can complete their education and turn tis around. And frankly, if that CAN happen, it will be the best option I feel. To walk away with the situation not resolved risks makingit look to your son as if the situation never can be solved, that he is the problem and not them. He should be realising about now that you are trying to do a lot for him. He does need to know it's not his fault, but at his age (and condition) that's a tall order.</p><p></p><p>Ifhe can experience a positive change in tat place, then he can see it's not his fault after all, school needn't be all bad. However, I do think you are going to have to move on from here, even if you can fix it. because too much damage has been done, he will heal faster in a new environment. The catch is, it would have Occupational Therapist (OT) be an ebvironment with a guarantee of decent treqatment, and you haven't got tat. To move him, and find the same problems, would be a disaster. To move him now, and have to begin the whole process of teaching people about him and his needs - the entire past year would then be a total waste.</p><p></p><p>So I do endorse your trying to close the gap, if it can be done. But while you're trying this, make your discreet enquiries elsewhere so if you need to, you can make the shift quickly, easily and with some promises in place. In writing.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 267100, member: 1991"] A tip from me - pack a hamper for yourself. Make it clear you are set up to wait there for as long as it takes. A thermos, a nanna rug, a good book, your knitting - and, of course, your notebook, to diarise everything, to have your I's dotted & T's crossed. Have your feedback in writing and make it clear - you are going to wait for their response, in writing. Or the IEP meeting, whichever comes first. Be prepared to be persuaded to leave if it becomes obvious you need to. But make them work for it. Then use your time away from there, to continue the fight. I do understand your need to try to fix this - if you can get this so-so para gone, plus pretty boy to back right off (he's leaving anyway) then perhaps you can complete their education and turn tis around. And frankly, if that CAN happen, it will be the best option I feel. To walk away with the situation not resolved risks makingit look to your son as if the situation never can be solved, that he is the problem and not them. He should be realising about now that you are trying to do a lot for him. He does need to know it's not his fault, but at his age (and condition) that's a tall order. Ifhe can experience a positive change in tat place, then he can see it's not his fault after all, school needn't be all bad. However, I do think you are going to have to move on from here, even if you can fix it. because too much damage has been done, he will heal faster in a new environment. The catch is, it would have Occupational Therapist (OT) be an ebvironment with a guarantee of decent treqatment, and you haven't got tat. To move him, and find the same problems, would be a disaster. To move him now, and have to begin the whole process of teaching people about him and his needs - the entire past year would then be a total waste. So I do endorse your trying to close the gap, if it can be done. But while you're trying this, make your discreet enquiries elsewhere so if you need to, you can make the shift quickly, easily and with some promises in place. In writing. Marg [/QUOTE]
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