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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 380822" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>He kept interrupting, the report says. But it doesn't explain anything more. That tells me, more than anything else, that they don't get it. One of the first things they should have done, is work out WHY he was interrupting, what he was trying to say. </p><p>To a small child, things can be of urgent importance. Who knows what was bothering him? He ay have had a sore foot and felt it needed to be attended to urgently. You don't hush a child who is trying to say the same ting over and over; if necessary, you take him outside, listen to him there, deal with it and then he is far more likely to sit quietly. And they clearly don't get this, because they made passing reference to this as the starting problem, but never delved into it to really find out what was the trigger. Then they set things off by trying to insist on good behaviour, instead of helping him behave.</p><p></p><p>If you get to talk to them, Shari, go back over the whole incident with them to use it as a teaching tool for them. Make it like watching a CCTV coverage of the incident. "OK, here - this is where you should have done things this way. This is how it would then have gone. These were your alternative options at this point. Here is the likely outcome form each option. This is why this should have been done."</p><p></p><p>Right back at the basics.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 380822, member: 1991"] He kept interrupting, the report says. But it doesn't explain anything more. That tells me, more than anything else, that they don't get it. One of the first things they should have done, is work out WHY he was interrupting, what he was trying to say. To a small child, things can be of urgent importance. Who knows what was bothering him? He ay have had a sore foot and felt it needed to be attended to urgently. You don't hush a child who is trying to say the same ting over and over; if necessary, you take him outside, listen to him there, deal with it and then he is far more likely to sit quietly. And they clearly don't get this, because they made passing reference to this as the starting problem, but never delved into it to really find out what was the trigger. Then they set things off by trying to insist on good behaviour, instead of helping him behave. If you get to talk to them, Shari, go back over the whole incident with them to use it as a teaching tool for them. Make it like watching a CCTV coverage of the incident. "OK, here - this is where you should have done things this way. This is how it would then have gone. These were your alternative options at this point. Here is the likely outcome form each option. This is why this should have been done." Right back at the basics. Marg [/QUOTE]
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