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<blockquote data-quote="pepperidge" data-source="post: 411569" data-attributes="member: 2322"><p>Before you get too far down the token economy route, please read the Explosive child. I think it will help you a lot more than a token economy (in my experience). </p><p>Sometimes the rigidity of the token economy only exacerbates rages and meltdowns. Particularly, if the things you are asking for are not achievable most of the time or involve grey areas (be nice to your brother). Plus the token economy thing will drive you crazy, give you arguments about whether he has earned privileges etc. For things that you don't think he can handle right now--going to park etc he just doesn't get to do. Not punishment, just not ready. My 14 year old I wouldn't let go to place to play by himself still for the most part--I know he would find someone to get in trouble with somehow. He is not being punished, just the way it is.</p><p></p><p>I wouldnt punish your child for his behavior of the car--Explosive child mantra; he would behave if he could. I would spend the time thinking about ways to defuse confrontation (not going places in the first place, etc) at this point. And think about Risperdal low dose for a while to see if it helps. (see below).</p><p></p><p>What we have found (after making all the mistakes in the book, etc) is that for kids like my youngest who tends to be more of a black and white thinker, being very specific and clear and not deviating. For example right now for him (not when he was younger) he does 1/2 reading every night before having TV. No exceptions. We monitor. We write out the list of things he has to do each night on paper--actually write them out -- take shower, read, etc before TV privileges. If we forget something on the list, well we have to forget it that night. This has cut down a lot on arguing. Most psychs have never raised difficult children. </p><p></p><p>I also wanted to add that when my youngest first started on Adderall (which was a godsend) he would tend to be very aggressive in the afternoons after it was wearing off. We tried a small dose in the afternoon and that helped, but we then eventually we went to a low dose of Risperdal in the afternoon. </p><p> It cut down on all the rages etc. You can also get a melt in your mouth Risperdal that works really quick and give it on an as needed basis.</p><p></p><p>good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pepperidge, post: 411569, member: 2322"] Before you get too far down the token economy route, please read the Explosive child. I think it will help you a lot more than a token economy (in my experience). Sometimes the rigidity of the token economy only exacerbates rages and meltdowns. Particularly, if the things you are asking for are not achievable most of the time or involve grey areas (be nice to your brother). Plus the token economy thing will drive you crazy, give you arguments about whether he has earned privileges etc. For things that you don't think he can handle right now--going to park etc he just doesn't get to do. Not punishment, just not ready. My 14 year old I wouldn't let go to place to play by himself still for the most part--I know he would find someone to get in trouble with somehow. He is not being punished, just the way it is. I wouldnt punish your child for his behavior of the car--Explosive child mantra; he would behave if he could. I would spend the time thinking about ways to defuse confrontation (not going places in the first place, etc) at this point. And think about Risperdal low dose for a while to see if it helps. (see below). What we have found (after making all the mistakes in the book, etc) is that for kids like my youngest who tends to be more of a black and white thinker, being very specific and clear and not deviating. For example right now for him (not when he was younger) he does 1/2 reading every night before having TV. No exceptions. We monitor. We write out the list of things he has to do each night on paper--actually write them out -- take shower, read, etc before TV privileges. If we forget something on the list, well we have to forget it that night. This has cut down a lot on arguing. Most psychs have never raised difficult children. I also wanted to add that when my youngest first started on Adderall (which was a godsend) he would tend to be very aggressive in the afternoons after it was wearing off. We tried a small dose in the afternoon and that helped, but we then eventually we went to a low dose of Risperdal in the afternoon. It cut down on all the rages etc. You can also get a melt in your mouth Risperdal that works really quick and give it on an as needed basis. good luck. [/QUOTE]
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