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<blockquote data-quote="idohope" data-source="post: 411888" data-attributes="member: 7722"><p>I have also tried this, with mixed results. Caused huge rages until difficult child "bought into" the system, which she eventually did somewhat. So things definitely got worse with this before they got better. We were instructed that intially to focus on a limited number of behaviors that were relatively easily acheiveable. So we focused on getting to school and bedtime. (Get up 1 point; Eat breakfast 2; brush teeth 3; get dressed 1 etc) so more points for things that difficult child was more resistant to. No points were removed if these things were not done. </p><p></p><p>Two important items were Good Attitude and Calm Space, 3 and 5 points respectively. So we could award "good attitude" points whenever someone was being good/helpful/nice. So a really strong focus on the right behavior. And Calm space: if there was a rage difficult child could earn points by handling it appropriately so encouraging difficult child to go to a calm space to get back in control. </p><p></p><p>After a couple of months we added in taking away points. Initially for any hitting or hurting others.</p><p></p><p>We were also advised to have the kids participate in determing the rewards. This may help to identify things that will motivate them. We did not do TV time. It is complicated with 3 kids. What if one does not earn and the other kid is watching. We have an open concept house and it is too hard to banish a kid from the whole first floor so they do not see the show a sibling is watching. Rewards were time alone with Mom or Dad doing something of the kids choosing; playdates; sleepovers; and we had bigger things that they could bank points for.</p><p></p><p>My main problem with the token economy was that husband would not participate and would sometimes actively work against it (giving the kids for free the what they were supposed to be earning with points). So in a two parent household both parents need to be on the same page. Although we have not used the system in a year or so the whiteboard we used for tracking is still in the house and easy child 2 (who is a borderline difficult child) actually askes me pretty regularly if we can re-instate the system. I may do it but I must say it does take a lot of effort to set up and maintain. But I think it would be very effective for easy child 2 so I may do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="idohope, post: 411888, member: 7722"] I have also tried this, with mixed results. Caused huge rages until difficult child "bought into" the system, which she eventually did somewhat. So things definitely got worse with this before they got better. We were instructed that intially to focus on a limited number of behaviors that were relatively easily acheiveable. So we focused on getting to school and bedtime. (Get up 1 point; Eat breakfast 2; brush teeth 3; get dressed 1 etc) so more points for things that difficult child was more resistant to. No points were removed if these things were not done. Two important items were Good Attitude and Calm Space, 3 and 5 points respectively. So we could award "good attitude" points whenever someone was being good/helpful/nice. So a really strong focus on the right behavior. And Calm space: if there was a rage difficult child could earn points by handling it appropriately so encouraging difficult child to go to a calm space to get back in control. After a couple of months we added in taking away points. Initially for any hitting or hurting others. We were also advised to have the kids participate in determing the rewards. This may help to identify things that will motivate them. We did not do TV time. It is complicated with 3 kids. What if one does not earn and the other kid is watching. We have an open concept house and it is too hard to banish a kid from the whole first floor so they do not see the show a sibling is watching. Rewards were time alone with Mom or Dad doing something of the kids choosing; playdates; sleepovers; and we had bigger things that they could bank points for. My main problem with the token economy was that husband would not participate and would sometimes actively work against it (giving the kids for free the what they were supposed to be earning with points). So in a two parent household both parents need to be on the same page. Although we have not used the system in a year or so the whiteboard we used for tracking is still in the house and easy child 2 (who is a borderline difficult child) actually askes me pretty regularly if we can re-instate the system. I may do it but I must say it does take a lot of effort to set up and maintain. But I think it would be very effective for easy child 2 so I may do it. [/QUOTE]
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