Marguerite
Active Member
I'm so glad this went so well. I hope that things can finally begin to click into place from here.
About the cross-dressing/sexuality concerns - if your husband has been so much in denial over these problems (aided and abetted by a complacent psychologist) then how on earth would he cope if he had to accept that his son was cross-dressing in a big way?
Also, cross-dressing (if that is what is happening) isn't always connected to homosexuality. I had a male flatmate who used to borrow my clothes and ask me to help him with his make-up. He was VERY heterosexual; I was in the next room and had to sleep with ear plugs because he and his girlfriend kept me awake all night with their "nocturnal activities". The people in the downstairs flat also complained. Frankly, I think he had his one night a week cross-dressing (the night his girlfriend was at work) to give himself a break from being so thoroughly, competitively, testosterone-laden the rest of the time.
There are also ways he can 'legitimately' cross-dress. My flatmate would wear a caftan sometimes, he had a floor-length nightshirt (it was a 'formal' nightshirt with a black bow tie and black stud buttons down the front, worn with cufflinks). And he joined a Scottish highland dance club and attended a lot of highland dance nights - wearing a kilt. Perfectly legitimate, nothing effeminate, but a novel way to enjoy the feeling of freedom in the nether regions without anyone realising he was enjoying some cross-dressing.
Mind you, that doesn't mean that all kilt-wearers or caftan wearers are secretly cross-dressing. It's just that for a cross-dresser, it was a different way to wear a skirt.
I don't think you could be accused of encouraging it, or causing it, if you got him involved in a pipe band or a highland dance club. All you would be doing is hopefully giving him a more legitimate outlet. If he could get enough from this, it could mean he wouldn't feel so much inclination to nick knickers.
Marg
About the cross-dressing/sexuality concerns - if your husband has been so much in denial over these problems (aided and abetted by a complacent psychologist) then how on earth would he cope if he had to accept that his son was cross-dressing in a big way?
Also, cross-dressing (if that is what is happening) isn't always connected to homosexuality. I had a male flatmate who used to borrow my clothes and ask me to help him with his make-up. He was VERY heterosexual; I was in the next room and had to sleep with ear plugs because he and his girlfriend kept me awake all night with their "nocturnal activities". The people in the downstairs flat also complained. Frankly, I think he had his one night a week cross-dressing (the night his girlfriend was at work) to give himself a break from being so thoroughly, competitively, testosterone-laden the rest of the time.
There are also ways he can 'legitimately' cross-dress. My flatmate would wear a caftan sometimes, he had a floor-length nightshirt (it was a 'formal' nightshirt with a black bow tie and black stud buttons down the front, worn with cufflinks). And he joined a Scottish highland dance club and attended a lot of highland dance nights - wearing a kilt. Perfectly legitimate, nothing effeminate, but a novel way to enjoy the feeling of freedom in the nether regions without anyone realising he was enjoying some cross-dressing.
Mind you, that doesn't mean that all kilt-wearers or caftan wearers are secretly cross-dressing. It's just that for a cross-dresser, it was a different way to wear a skirt.
I don't think you could be accused of encouraging it, or causing it, if you got him involved in a pipe band or a highland dance club. All you would be doing is hopefully giving him a more legitimate outlet. If he could get enough from this, it could mean he wouldn't feel so much inclination to nick knickers.
Marg