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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 156415" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Tiapet, </p><p> </p><p>read about flight or fight response (google it) and maybe a tweak with your therapist about finding gray area in your harmony. </p><p> </p><p>I'm living proof that you CAN go from black and white thinking to gray thinking. Meaning - I, like you either went all one way or the other. It was so frustrating to my Mom growing up. I can't even tell you why I thought like that, but growing older with difficult child I found myself having those same thoughts (ALL OR NOTHING) creep back in. </p><p> </p><p>I dont' want to be like that at all with him, but if you check out the flight or fight response it will explain what is going on and you can go from there to finding a more even keel thought process regarding deatchment. </p><p> </p><p>It's not weird, it is NOT unusual, it does happen to the best of us and it's hard when you have been like that your whole life to turn it off. But...not impossible. </p><p> </p><p>I'm able to find middle ground now, but I too have to watch when I start thinking like that. Because somedays I'm not sure if I want to come back from being totally detached. It's a safe place. Not comfortable, but safe. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 156415, member: 4964"] Tiapet, read about flight or fight response (google it) and maybe a tweak with your therapist about finding gray area in your harmony. I'm living proof that you CAN go from black and white thinking to gray thinking. Meaning - I, like you either went all one way or the other. It was so frustrating to my Mom growing up. I can't even tell you why I thought like that, but growing older with difficult child I found myself having those same thoughts (ALL OR NOTHING) creep back in. I dont' want to be like that at all with him, but if you check out the flight or fight response it will explain what is going on and you can go from there to finding a more even keel thought process regarding deatchment. It's not weird, it is NOT unusual, it does happen to the best of us and it's hard when you have been like that your whole life to turn it off. But...not impossible. I'm able to find middle ground now, but I too have to watch when I start thinking like that. Because somedays I'm not sure if I want to come back from being totally detached. It's a safe place. Not comfortable, but safe. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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