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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 190056" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Thank you all for your thoughts and advice. I think susiestar is right - I've lived with this so long that while it feels uncomfortable, it doesn't strike me with the same degree of severity as it does objective observers. Add to that the fact that I've brought it up with docs for years and gotten nowhere, and every time I've insisted that there was a big problem, difficult child settled down and was peaceful and contrite and I was held to be an overreactor and person of questionable judgement, and ... I find I trust my judgement less than I used to.</p><p></p><p>It's also difficult when difficult child knows precisely where the line is. If he swings at me but doesn't connect, and no-one else was in the room, how do the police know what to do when I call them? It's he said/she said with no physical evidence of battery. Similarly, if we find something like the message board all pierced and destroyed, it happened two days prior; there's no violence going on currently; no role for police. We have to say, on finding something like that, 'You must leave the house; go now.' That's the point that husband hasn't quite reached, and difficult child exploits it by crying hysterically and accusing husband of wanting to kick him out, wanting him on the street and to never contact us again, of wanting him to die. So far husband is vulnerable to it.</p><p></p><p>I agree about changing the locks etc., and again, husband hasn't gotten on the same page yet. Yesterday he said he wants difficult child to move out and go to another state, and doesn't want to hear from him for a year and only then if things are positive; but so far it doesn't last. He wavers and changes his mind.</p><p></p><p>I've wondered for years if there's more psychotic stuff going on with difficult child than appears on the surface. Mostly it seems that he puts on whatever act is necessary to win his point; but at the same time he gets so upset with tears and sobbing etc., that it makes me wonder about whether delusions are part of it. If he were simply antisocial I would expect more anger or detachment. Rather than crying and sliding us sideways looks to see the effect, difficult child gets hysterically emotional and seems to regress at these times. It's sad, seeing a 20 year old man sobbing over his perception that his sibs are mean to him, or some other age-inappropriate issue.</p><p></p><p>easy child 1 is currently just on an antidepressant; it helps his concentration mostly. He isn't currently bothered by a lot of 'positive' symptoms, i.e. auditory hallucinations, prominent delusions, etc., so isn't on an antipsychotic at the moment. Antipsychotics don't help the 'negative' symptoms of schizophrenia and that's what easy child 1 copes with mostly. Both easy child 1 and difficult child have been on antipsychotics in the past. I'll bring up the issue with the psychiatrist tomorrow.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 190056, member: 2884"] Thank you all for your thoughts and advice. I think susiestar is right - I've lived with this so long that while it feels uncomfortable, it doesn't strike me with the same degree of severity as it does objective observers. Add to that the fact that I've brought it up with docs for years and gotten nowhere, and every time I've insisted that there was a big problem, difficult child settled down and was peaceful and contrite and I was held to be an overreactor and person of questionable judgement, and ... I find I trust my judgement less than I used to. It's also difficult when difficult child knows precisely where the line is. If he swings at me but doesn't connect, and no-one else was in the room, how do the police know what to do when I call them? It's he said/she said with no physical evidence of battery. Similarly, if we find something like the message board all pierced and destroyed, it happened two days prior; there's no violence going on currently; no role for police. We have to say, on finding something like that, 'You must leave the house; go now.' That's the point that husband hasn't quite reached, and difficult child exploits it by crying hysterically and accusing husband of wanting to kick him out, wanting him on the street and to never contact us again, of wanting him to die. So far husband is vulnerable to it. I agree about changing the locks etc., and again, husband hasn't gotten on the same page yet. Yesterday he said he wants difficult child to move out and go to another state, and doesn't want to hear from him for a year and only then if things are positive; but so far it doesn't last. He wavers and changes his mind. I've wondered for years if there's more psychotic stuff going on with difficult child than appears on the surface. Mostly it seems that he puts on whatever act is necessary to win his point; but at the same time he gets so upset with tears and sobbing etc., that it makes me wonder about whether delusions are part of it. If he were simply antisocial I would expect more anger or detachment. Rather than crying and sliding us sideways looks to see the effect, difficult child gets hysterically emotional and seems to regress at these times. It's sad, seeing a 20 year old man sobbing over his perception that his sibs are mean to him, or some other age-inappropriate issue. easy child 1 is currently just on an antidepressant; it helps his concentration mostly. He isn't currently bothered by a lot of 'positive' symptoms, i.e. auditory hallucinations, prominent delusions, etc., so isn't on an antipsychotic at the moment. Antipsychotics don't help the 'negative' symptoms of schizophrenia and that's what easy child 1 copes with mostly. Both easy child 1 and difficult child have been on antipsychotics in the past. I'll bring up the issue with the psychiatrist tomorrow. [/QUOTE]
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