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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 585820" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Hi and welcome!</p><p></p><p>Sorry, couldn't help but LOL for your mentioning of bears and beds. That certainly sounded eerily familiar.</p><p></p><p>It seems you are lining up your ducks just nicely and I don't have much of an advise in that. I'm not sure I have much reassurance that things would change to give. My very fussy (and colicky and overly sensitive and melodramatic) baby is now a fussy young adult. The basic temperament doesn't change. Mine had lots of social skill issues, still has and some of them have caused nasty things that cause him trouble still. Good news is that in the big wide world there is also room for fussy people, it just takes little more to find that good niche. School years tend to be hard. Kids are expected to fit to quite a tight role to be accepted. After that there is often more room to be little different.</p><p></p><p>It sounds that your son has some clear neurological differences. Some of them can be diagnosed, some are likely not meeting a criteria or are just things that are 'little different.' That will cause your son a lot of stress daily. He likely has to work very hard to just manage his school days and that shows at home. That hardship also does make a tent to his self image. He is big enough to know, that he isn't really fitting in so easily and that is hard for a kid. I would also be very careful and look for signs of being ostracised or bullied by peers. That makes huge havoc to sensitive kid and they do not tell at home. All that can easily cause depression even when things at home are well and in that case simply medicating will not solve the issue, but also interventions to make his life less overwhelming are needed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 585820, member: 14557"] Hi and welcome! Sorry, couldn't help but LOL for your mentioning of bears and beds. That certainly sounded eerily familiar. It seems you are lining up your ducks just nicely and I don't have much of an advise in that. I'm not sure I have much reassurance that things would change to give. My very fussy (and colicky and overly sensitive and melodramatic) baby is now a fussy young adult. The basic temperament doesn't change. Mine had lots of social skill issues, still has and some of them have caused nasty things that cause him trouble still. Good news is that in the big wide world there is also room for fussy people, it just takes little more to find that good niche. School years tend to be hard. Kids are expected to fit to quite a tight role to be accepted. After that there is often more room to be little different. It sounds that your son has some clear neurological differences. Some of them can be diagnosed, some are likely not meeting a criteria or are just things that are 'little different.' That will cause your son a lot of stress daily. He likely has to work very hard to just manage his school days and that shows at home. That hardship also does make a tent to his self image. He is big enough to know, that he isn't really fitting in so easily and that is hard for a kid. I would also be very careful and look for signs of being ostracised or bullied by peers. That makes huge havoc to sensitive kid and they do not tell at home. All that can easily cause depression even when things at home are well and in that case simply medicating will not solve the issue, but also interventions to make his life less overwhelming are needed. [/QUOTE]
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