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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 585826" data-attributes="member: 15799"><p>Just a thought that popped into my head as I was reading your post. You could have been describing my difficult child 1! With the sensory issues since birth (yes, dad's VOICE tone, pitch, whatever could/might feel like daggers), doing better in school than at home (routine/scheduled time vs relaxed/unscheduled time), blaming others no matter what, few if any friends, etc all sound familiar and sound very spectrumy. My difficult child 2 is also on the spectrum and his symptoms have actually gotten worse with puberty. difficult child 1's behavior got much worse around 3rd or 4th grade. The work at school started getting harder and more expectations were place on him all around. It made his anxiety pique to new levels because he just wasn't able to do it all, school AND home. We tried an antidepressant because he became soooo depressed that he was curled up in the fetal position sleeping most of the time. It seemed to help at first. Then gradually (and I mean gradually), he became more "angry" and seemed to be more defiant. It ended with him becoming so violent he ended up in a psychiatric unit and some legal trouble. As soon as we stopped the antidepressant, things started getting better. Be careful, very careful with medications IF he even "might" be on the autism spectrum.</p><p></p><p>What has made a HUGE difference in our house (yes, things are MUCH better) is a high sensory diet, routines at home, written expectations and chores, etc. What got us to this point in the first place was my reading the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and trying to implement his methods. What I found was that difficult child 1 thought VERY different than most people. His points of view and his comprehension of things weren't what most people have. His whole view of the world and everyone in it is very skewed. That helped me see HIS thinking patterns so I could predict and manage situations that will or might cause issues for him. It also helped me see that I needed to spend a LOT of time teaching skills that most kids learn through experience. He wasn't capable of learning "life" skills without being taught at length. Punishment does not teach, it only made difficult child 1 feel even worse and contributed to his depression.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you are seeing a neuropsychologist. That is the professional that finally sorted everything out for us. It has been huge. I hope the one you're seeing is a "good" one. </p><p></p><p>Welcome to our little corner of the world. Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 585826, member: 15799"] Just a thought that popped into my head as I was reading your post. You could have been describing my difficult child 1! With the sensory issues since birth (yes, dad's VOICE tone, pitch, whatever could/might feel like daggers), doing better in school than at home (routine/scheduled time vs relaxed/unscheduled time), blaming others no matter what, few if any friends, etc all sound familiar and sound very spectrumy. My difficult child 2 is also on the spectrum and his symptoms have actually gotten worse with puberty. difficult child 1's behavior got much worse around 3rd or 4th grade. The work at school started getting harder and more expectations were place on him all around. It made his anxiety pique to new levels because he just wasn't able to do it all, school AND home. We tried an antidepressant because he became soooo depressed that he was curled up in the fetal position sleeping most of the time. It seemed to help at first. Then gradually (and I mean gradually), he became more "angry" and seemed to be more defiant. It ended with him becoming so violent he ended up in a psychiatric unit and some legal trouble. As soon as we stopped the antidepressant, things started getting better. Be careful, very careful with medications IF he even "might" be on the autism spectrum. What has made a HUGE difference in our house (yes, things are MUCH better) is a high sensory diet, routines at home, written expectations and chores, etc. What got us to this point in the first place was my reading the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and trying to implement his methods. What I found was that difficult child 1 thought VERY different than most people. His points of view and his comprehension of things weren't what most people have. His whole view of the world and everyone in it is very skewed. That helped me see HIS thinking patterns so I could predict and manage situations that will or might cause issues for him. It also helped me see that I needed to spend a LOT of time teaching skills that most kids learn through experience. He wasn't capable of learning "life" skills without being taught at length. Punishment does not teach, it only made difficult child 1 feel even worse and contributed to his depression. I am glad you are seeing a neuropsychologist. That is the professional that finally sorted everything out for us. It has been huge. I hope the one you're seeing is a "good" one. Welcome to our little corner of the world. Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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