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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 377476" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>I am not involved in difficult child 1's homework at all. When she was in 7th Grade, she didn't bother to do enough homework that she got a 77 on her report card. She thought this was good enough. She is capable of getting most, if not all, A+'s. </p><p></p><p> Because it comes so easily to her, I have been concerned that she would not learn to work hard. We decided to offer a "bonus" for good grades. She only got paid if she got all A's. A single B meant no bonus, so she decided it would be worth it to do her homework. </p><p></p><p>We adjust our expectations based on her classes. Last year, she did struggle and work hard on Gifted Geometry, so she got paid for a B but she had to get A+'s in everything else.</p><p></p><p>If Piglet can get B's without you being involved, maybe some sort of bonus plan would work to motivate her to get higher grades. I was kind of opposed to paying for grades at first, but I realized husband sometimes gets a bonus at work for excellent performance. In the real world, sometimes people do get bonuses for working hard and going beyond "good enough".</p><p></p><p>When we came up with the plan for my daughter in 7th grade, I was prepared to just let her get C's and go to whatever college would take her, thinking she would end up where she belonged, if our incentive plan didn't work. Since I'm not going to stand over her in college making her do her work, it won't do much good if she gets into a demanding college with grades that required me to do that. </p><p></p><p>On another note, I used to have those homework struggles with difficult child 2. I thought she was spending so much time complaining about her HW and that she could get it done in a fraction of the time. Now that I homeschool her, I realize she really does have some learning problems that get in the way, including a very short working memory. If we hadn't had her tested, I would never have believed she could forget something so quickly. Has Piglet had any recent neuropsychologist testing to see if there is something like that going on?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 377476, member: 1792"] I am not involved in difficult child 1's homework at all. When she was in 7th Grade, she didn't bother to do enough homework that she got a 77 on her report card. She thought this was good enough. She is capable of getting most, if not all, A+'s. Because it comes so easily to her, I have been concerned that she would not learn to work hard. We decided to offer a "bonus" for good grades. She only got paid if she got all A's. A single B meant no bonus, so she decided it would be worth it to do her homework. We adjust our expectations based on her classes. Last year, she did struggle and work hard on Gifted Geometry, so she got paid for a B but she had to get A+'s in everything else. If Piglet can get B's without you being involved, maybe some sort of bonus plan would work to motivate her to get higher grades. I was kind of opposed to paying for grades at first, but I realized husband sometimes gets a bonus at work for excellent performance. In the real world, sometimes people do get bonuses for working hard and going beyond "good enough". When we came up with the plan for my daughter in 7th grade, I was prepared to just let her get C's and go to whatever college would take her, thinking she would end up where she belonged, if our incentive plan didn't work. Since I'm not going to stand over her in college making her do her work, it won't do much good if she gets into a demanding college with grades that required me to do that. On another note, I used to have those homework struggles with difficult child 2. I thought she was spending so much time complaining about her HW and that she could get it done in a fraction of the time. Now that I homeschool her, I realize she really does have some learning problems that get in the way, including a very short working memory. If we hadn't had her tested, I would never have believed she could forget something so quickly. Has Piglet had any recent neuropsychologist testing to see if there is something like that going on? [/QUOTE]
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