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tough love or meanness?
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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 138448" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>Like the others have said I too am sure your mommy heart is breaking but sometimes the tough love approach is the only way to deal with certain situations. I have been there done that with my difficult child and knew that she had to hit rock bottom and decide for herself that she no longer wanted the life of drugs and living on the streets (For three months she did). I had opportunity to grab her up for what some would call the save but I knew that it would never work out due to the fact that she was not ready to make better choices. The only way it does work out is if they are a willing participant. I was not about to have myself, my home or her brothers safety and well being compromised. Its a very uneasy feeling when you cannot feel safe in your own home because of the type of people that our kiddos choose to troll with. You just never know what they will do to get their next fix. Just letting you know that tough love does not mean that you stop loving or caring for your difficult child if anything it helps them. When my difficult child was on the street I was waiting for her to either get caught doing something stupid in the hopes of her at that point getting an intervention or hitting rock bottom. In her case she did hit rock bottom and came home. She is doing well, Thank god. You did the right thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 138448, member: 2727"] Like the others have said I too am sure your mommy heart is breaking but sometimes the tough love approach is the only way to deal with certain situations. I have been there done that with my difficult child and knew that she had to hit rock bottom and decide for herself that she no longer wanted the life of drugs and living on the streets (For three months she did). I had opportunity to grab her up for what some would call the save but I knew that it would never work out due to the fact that she was not ready to make better choices. The only way it does work out is if they are a willing participant. I was not about to have myself, my home or her brothers safety and well being compromised. Its a very uneasy feeling when you cannot feel safe in your own home because of the type of people that our kiddos choose to troll with. You just never know what they will do to get their next fix. Just letting you know that tough love does not mean that you stop loving or caring for your difficult child if anything it helps them. When my difficult child was on the street I was waiting for her to either get caught doing something stupid in the hopes of her at that point getting an intervention or hitting rock bottom. In her case she did hit rock bottom and came home. She is doing well, Thank god. You did the right thing. [/QUOTE]
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