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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 496106" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Good advice, pepperidge. When J emerged from his nap, and we had spent time reading books, playing games, he had had his bath and was in his pyjamas cuddling up on the sofa - we were talking about the day (well, I was talking and trying to make a game out of how we could have done things less explosively), I said at one point "You are lovely". "No, I'm naughty," he said, and my heart sank... When I said he was not naughty, he repeated insistently that he was.</p><p>I think the attachment problems arise, apart from the stuff we each bring independently, because of his gfgness. When we are not in conflict over something, there are lots of warm, sharing, playful and affectionate times. Lots of cuddles. I feel "good" at that bit. I felt a lot less good at handling his difficulties - it brings out stress reactions in me, a lot of anger and possibly fear. I try to handle it as well as I can but don't do it as well as it could be done, by any manner of means. And then, inevitably, the relationship suffers and I start feeling anxious about the future, etc. Feeling like I am barely coping. All the things that are doubtless familiar to people here one way or another.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 496106, member: 11227"] Good advice, pepperidge. When J emerged from his nap, and we had spent time reading books, playing games, he had had his bath and was in his pyjamas cuddling up on the sofa - we were talking about the day (well, I was talking and trying to make a game out of how we could have done things less explosively), I said at one point "You are lovely". "No, I'm naughty," he said, and my heart sank... When I said he was not naughty, he repeated insistently that he was. I think the attachment problems arise, apart from the stuff we each bring independently, because of his gfgness. When we are not in conflict over something, there are lots of warm, sharing, playful and affectionate times. Lots of cuddles. I feel "good" at that bit. I felt a lot less good at handling his difficulties - it brings out stress reactions in me, a lot of anger and possibly fear. I try to handle it as well as I can but don't do it as well as it could be done, by any manner of means. And then, inevitably, the relationship suffers and I start feeling anxious about the future, etc. Feeling like I am barely coping. All the things that are doubtless familiar to people here one way or another. [/QUOTE]
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