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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 496366" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I haven't read all the responses, so forgive me if I contradict something. First, ODD is a very valid diagnosis. When we say that we don't value it or put much stock in it, we mean that it doesn't really do much other than describe what is going on. It doesn't give you a direction to go in to help and/or treat the problems. But it is a very real thing, VERY real.</p><p></p><p>Have you read The Out of Sync Child and The Out of Sync Child Has Fun, both by Kranowitz? The first describes sensory integration disorder and the second is packed with activities to fill sensory needs. Occupational therapy for sensory issues can be a HUGE help to both you and to J. There is a brushing therapy for sensory integration disorder that MUST be taught by an Occupational Therapist (OT) but otherwise is done at home or school and it is AMAZING. It retrains the brain to handle sensory input more appropriately. At one point J was screaming about his slippers because they didn't fit but couldn't tell you that and instead was just disintegrating into a fit. It is VERY likely that J was UNABLE to tell you "Mom, my slippers are too small and my feet hurt when I wear them." His brain got the messages that his toes/feet hurt when he wore the slippers but it could not send the words out his mouth. I have had both my boys go through this and it is incredibly frustrating. Of they just said something then of course they wouldn't have to wear the too small/whatever item, but they just yelled/had a fit and we all ended up miserable. Brushing therapy is a way for them to learn to be able to say those things at some future point. My kids all loved the therapy, over clothes or on bare skin, but not all kids do. The books are something that can help you figure things out until you can get an Occupational Therapist (OT) on board to teach you how to do the brushing, if that is the right therapy for J. If done wrong, brushing can cause real problems, so you do have to be taught, but it is amazingly helpful.</p><p></p><p>By the time I had Tyler, if we had a day or weekend of nonstop explosiveness I learned to schedule a doctor's appointment. Not iwth the psychiatrist, with the pediatrician. Why? Wiz acted this way when he was coming down with something. It took me longer than it shoudl have, but I finally learned that a weekend where he was totally oppositional, could be the international poster child for ODD, always meant he was coming down with something. Well, until he hit puberty, then it meant he had done something to get into major trouble and hadn't been caught yet. But until puberty it meant flu, ear infection, strep throat or something along that line. Once I clued in we did the doctor appointment on Monday, the doctor saw NOTHING, I was disgruntled, and on Wed he had a fever of 103. Both boys were like that. Jess was her own ball of string, but with the boys it was guaranteed. At one point the pediatrician and I had a running bet (a joke, no real payoff) that by Wed the temp would be up. I was never wrong. After the 5th loss he just handed me the rx's and told me to fill them if the temp went up rather than have me come back in a second time for the same problem. </p><p></p><p>I don't know if J is getting sick, but it is soemthing he might not be able to tell you. And contrary to what some doctors say, the ears can look perfectly fine and be very very painful to the child if an infection is there. It can take time to get bad enough for the doctor to see them and hurt when they look normal. </p><p></p><p>Is there a way to make one room of your home a place where J can have a meltdown and not hurt anything? A room to put him in when he explodes and he can't get hurt or damage anything and he can come out when he is done? Some parents find this useful. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry it was such a rough weekend.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 496366, member: 1233"] I haven't read all the responses, so forgive me if I contradict something. First, ODD is a very valid diagnosis. When we say that we don't value it or put much stock in it, we mean that it doesn't really do much other than describe what is going on. It doesn't give you a direction to go in to help and/or treat the problems. But it is a very real thing, VERY real. Have you read The Out of Sync Child and The Out of Sync Child Has Fun, both by Kranowitz? The first describes sensory integration disorder and the second is packed with activities to fill sensory needs. Occupational therapy for sensory issues can be a HUGE help to both you and to J. There is a brushing therapy for sensory integration disorder that MUST be taught by an Occupational Therapist (OT) but otherwise is done at home or school and it is AMAZING. It retrains the brain to handle sensory input more appropriately. At one point J was screaming about his slippers because they didn't fit but couldn't tell you that and instead was just disintegrating into a fit. It is VERY likely that J was UNABLE to tell you "Mom, my slippers are too small and my feet hurt when I wear them." His brain got the messages that his toes/feet hurt when he wore the slippers but it could not send the words out his mouth. I have had both my boys go through this and it is incredibly frustrating. Of they just said something then of course they wouldn't have to wear the too small/whatever item, but they just yelled/had a fit and we all ended up miserable. Brushing therapy is a way for them to learn to be able to say those things at some future point. My kids all loved the therapy, over clothes or on bare skin, but not all kids do. The books are something that can help you figure things out until you can get an Occupational Therapist (OT) on board to teach you how to do the brushing, if that is the right therapy for J. If done wrong, brushing can cause real problems, so you do have to be taught, but it is amazingly helpful. By the time I had Tyler, if we had a day or weekend of nonstop explosiveness I learned to schedule a doctor's appointment. Not iwth the psychiatrist, with the pediatrician. Why? Wiz acted this way when he was coming down with something. It took me longer than it shoudl have, but I finally learned that a weekend where he was totally oppositional, could be the international poster child for ODD, always meant he was coming down with something. Well, until he hit puberty, then it meant he had done something to get into major trouble and hadn't been caught yet. But until puberty it meant flu, ear infection, strep throat or something along that line. Once I clued in we did the doctor appointment on Monday, the doctor saw NOTHING, I was disgruntled, and on Wed he had a fever of 103. Both boys were like that. Jess was her own ball of string, but with the boys it was guaranteed. At one point the pediatrician and I had a running bet (a joke, no real payoff) that by Wed the temp would be up. I was never wrong. After the 5th loss he just handed me the rx's and told me to fill them if the temp went up rather than have me come back in a second time for the same problem. I don't know if J is getting sick, but it is soemthing he might not be able to tell you. And contrary to what some doctors say, the ears can look perfectly fine and be very very painful to the child if an infection is there. It can take time to get bad enough for the doctor to see them and hurt when they look normal. Is there a way to make one room of your home a place where J can have a meltdown and not hurt anything? A room to put him in when he explodes and he can't get hurt or damage anything and he can come out when he is done? Some parents find this useful. I am sorry it was such a rough weekend. [/QUOTE]
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