What a great update, toughlovin. I can totally relate to not jumping every time the phone rings, or you hear sirens, etc. You are right on target with your thinking - that you need to always be on guard knowing it's a journey, and that you didn't cause it, can't control it and can't change it. You can be there for him if he's doing the right thing.
Glad to hear the transition is going well!
Deb