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tragedy, grief and the difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 73522" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>I am so sorry for you and your kids...</p><p>My Mother took her life when I was 9. My step/adopted Dad took us to the beach and was very matter of fact, we went to school the next day. No grieving. No funeral. She had left us a few months before and there was also a lot of things we did not know, lots of lies etc. She was Bipolar.</p><p></p><p>For me I think honesty would have been nice. I think just being ther and open and available for when and if I was ready to talk, cry or just be. If it was to scream or yell or whatever... I think some extra compassion, some forgiveness for behaviors for awhile. </p><p></p><p>I was mad for a long time. and then I hated her. and then I hated everyone else, and then I hated myself, because if I was a better daughter my Mom would have never left me and she would have never killed herself.</p><p>Even though I know this is not true now, at 9... how could I not? All I knew was that I wasn't good enough, she didn't want me. </p><p></p><p>I think counseling would have been a good idea, and time, lots of time to heal.</p><p></p><p>I am truly sorry anyone has to go through this. especially children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 73522, member: 3155"] I am so sorry for you and your kids... My Mother took her life when I was 9. My step/adopted Dad took us to the beach and was very matter of fact, we went to school the next day. No grieving. No funeral. She had left us a few months before and there was also a lot of things we did not know, lots of lies etc. She was Bipolar. For me I think honesty would have been nice. I think just being ther and open and available for when and if I was ready to talk, cry or just be. If it was to scream or yell or whatever... I think some extra compassion, some forgiveness for behaviors for awhile. I was mad for a long time. and then I hated her. and then I hated everyone else, and then I hated myself, because if I was a better daughter my Mom would have never left me and she would have never killed herself. Even though I know this is not true now, at 9... how could I not? All I knew was that I wasn't good enough, she didn't want me. I think counseling would have been a good idea, and time, lots of time to heal. I am truly sorry anyone has to go through this. especially children. [/QUOTE]
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