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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 618379" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>3/Not the norm in that they are not excited about growing up or independence and prefer allowing parents to extend their childhood.</p><p></p><p>Wow. I love that you have this in your list. My son would say, multiple times, growing up, even as a little boy: "Mommy, I don't want to grow up." I remember thinking that was strange, because most kids can't wait to grow up and have all of the rights of adulthood. But I would disregard it, of course, thinking it was childish prattle. Today, those words haunt me. </p><p></p><p>Other traits:</p><p></p><p>11/Never felt comfortable "in his own skin". Hung back, was shy, didn't fit in easily.</p><p>12/My son had friends, but the friends he chose were struggling too. I don't see any of those friendships that have been sustained.</p><p>13/Worse behavior with parents/family than with other people. </p><p>14/Anxious. My son bites his fingernails into the quick and picks his toenails. He worries a lot and spends a lot of time in his own head thinking about things/worrying about things.</p><p>15/Lies when the truth would be just as good. Big time lies. Constant lies.</p><p>16/Class clown and also very shy/quiet (at the same time). Inability to handle social situations and interact with people on a give and take basis. </p><p>17/Grandiose ideas and dreams. My son talked about being very rich and living in a big mansion. A lot. </p><p></p><p>I notice that we are writing the negative traits, I guess because those are the ones that are so hard to deal with.</p><p></p><p>Underneath all of this, my son is super smart, has an amazing ability to bring multiple solutions to problems, is very good with his hands, fixing things, likes to read, very very funny, has a beautiful smile that is instantly engaging, is very coordinated and athletic, and is one of the most persistent people I have ever met. He was found to be gifted in elementary school but "didn't want to be smart" so he purposefully did terrible in his gifted classes in middle school and absolutely would not participate or do the work. These are the "flip" side of some of the bad traits mentioned---in a different measure some of them can be very useful and good in life.</p><p></p><p>There is comfort in realizing the traits of the disease of addiction. Our kids aren't different. Thanks Cedar.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 618379, member: 17542"] 3/Not the norm in that they are not excited about growing up or independence and prefer allowing parents to extend their childhood. Wow. I love that you have this in your list. My son would say, multiple times, growing up, even as a little boy: "Mommy, I don't want to grow up." I remember thinking that was strange, because most kids can't wait to grow up and have all of the rights of adulthood. But I would disregard it, of course, thinking it was childish prattle. Today, those words haunt me. Other traits: 11/Never felt comfortable "in his own skin". Hung back, was shy, didn't fit in easily. 12/My son had friends, but the friends he chose were struggling too. I don't see any of those friendships that have been sustained. 13/Worse behavior with parents/family than with other people. 14/Anxious. My son bites his fingernails into the quick and picks his toenails. He worries a lot and spends a lot of time in his own head thinking about things/worrying about things. 15/Lies when the truth would be just as good. Big time lies. Constant lies. 16/Class clown and also very shy/quiet (at the same time). Inability to handle social situations and interact with people on a give and take basis. 17/Grandiose ideas and dreams. My son talked about being very rich and living in a big mansion. A lot. I notice that we are writing the negative traits, I guess because those are the ones that are so hard to deal with. Underneath all of this, my son is super smart, has an amazing ability to bring multiple solutions to problems, is very good with his hands, fixing things, likes to read, very very funny, has a beautiful smile that is instantly engaging, is very coordinated and athletic, and is one of the most persistent people I have ever met. He was found to be gifted in elementary school but "didn't want to be smart" so he purposefully did terrible in his gifted classes in middle school and absolutely would not participate or do the work. These are the "flip" side of some of the bad traits mentioned---in a different measure some of them can be very useful and good in life. There is comfort in realizing the traits of the disease of addiction. Our kids aren't different. Thanks Cedar. [/QUOTE]
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