Okay, I need some general parenting thoughts from some of you who I trust. Our difficult child, as most of you know, was placed in our home by CPS, and has been allowed only supervised contact with her BIO mom up to this point. We are facing a difficult situation, because on July 19, CPS will step out and leave full custody of our difficult child to my husband and I. When this happens, the judge will make recommendations for visitation, but there will be NO VISITATION ORDERS in place for her and her bio mom. The judge will instruct us and her bio mom that if we want Court ordered visitation, we will have to hash it out in family court, which we are trying to AVOID. We have already been given an idea of what the recommendations will be, which is that visitation remain as it is when they step out. The thing is, we would like to get to a point where our difficult child is allowed to see her mom without us standing over their shoulder, but we don't see how that will be possible. If we decide that visitation should stay supervised, I think that bio mom is going to get upset and drag us to court (chances are we will get what we want as long as our requests are reasonable, they already warned us that the family court judge will ALMOST ALWAYS order to agree with the recommendations of CPS) so we aren't worried about winning the case in court, we just don't want to have to GO to court at all. We were thinking of doing the progression from supervised, into monitored, then to unsupervised, the same as CPS would do, but those progressive changes would HAVE to be made based on bio mom's progress through her drug rehabilitation. Right now, CPS has been monitoring bio mom's progress very closely, they get copies of all her drug court records, her parole agreements, and random drug testing for themelves on top of the drug testing done by the drug court officers and her parole officers. Once CPS steps out, we will have NO WAY of GAINING ACCESS to ANY of that information regarding mom's progress without a court order or a signed release from her. The hard part is, that I am almost sure that her bio mom thinks that as soon as CPS steps out, we are just going to let them visit when they want without anyone supervising, and I am afraid that when I tell her that we won't be allowing that right away, she will get upset and refuse to sign a release for us to monitor her progress, and just try to drag us into court. Don't get me wrong, I would not COMPROMISE our difficult child's SAFETY by allowing her to spend time with her mom alone before we are sure that they are ready JUST to stay out of court, but does anyone have any advice on a good way to approach this subject with her bio mom or any other creative ideas on ways to do visitations that would allow us to ensure that our difficult child is safe and that bio mom is satisfied enough to keep us OUT of court?????