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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 201439" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Does husband have a pain management plan in place? Will he be comfortable enough in the camp bed?</p><p></p><p>If so, then I would be grateful to him for being prepared to do this for his son.</p><p></p><p>If he can, husband can use the daytime to get the rest he needs and also the pain management. If he is on pain medications he will need to keep them on him and not anywhere that the kids can get their hands on them.</p><p></p><p>If husband can keep his physical pain separate to his emotional concerns, then this will be a good thing - it will help him feel that he can still be of use and a darn good father. I can vouch for the problems of being in constant pain and feeling useless when it comes to parenting a needy child.</p><p></p><p>I'm not going to pry about what is wrong with your husband, but if there is any pressure pain or contact pain, he could perhaps take extra cushioning or perhaps a sheepskin as extra assistance and comfort in a camp bed (or seating). But I speak from experience when it comes to pain medications - I was volunteering at the local school some years ago and accidentally dropped my pain medications. A kid found them, a kid who was also a close friend (son of best friend) who recognised my name on the prescription label. But it did cause a lot of trouble. So make sure your husband goes carefully with this one. Keep medications (a couple of days' dosage only) in a buttoned/zipped pocket of the clothes he is wearing (inner clothing, not outer wear). Also make sure that any medications he is carrying are known to officials in charge.</p><p></p><p>Also husband needs to expect to get little or no sleep. If he goes in with this expectation as well a the pan to catch up during the days, then any sleep he DOES get will be a bonus.</p><p></p><p>I hope it goes well. If he plans it well there is no reason why this shouldn't work. If he has really thought it through and wants to do this, then let him. Don't be too overprotective. Even if it wears him out, maybe even aggravates his pain - if husband is happy to do this and accepts the likely negatives - this is his choice.</p><p></p><p>I say this as a person in constant severe pain with physical limitations. I need to be needed, I need to be useful. I also recognise that the people who love me want to protect me and hate to see me in pain.</p><p></p><p>Give him a hug and a fleecy sheepskin, then send him off with a smile. Try not to bite your fingernails down to the quick while they're gone - this should be a vital experience for them both.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 201439, member: 1991"] Does husband have a pain management plan in place? Will he be comfortable enough in the camp bed? If so, then I would be grateful to him for being prepared to do this for his son. If he can, husband can use the daytime to get the rest he needs and also the pain management. If he is on pain medications he will need to keep them on him and not anywhere that the kids can get their hands on them. If husband can keep his physical pain separate to his emotional concerns, then this will be a good thing - it will help him feel that he can still be of use and a darn good father. I can vouch for the problems of being in constant pain and feeling useless when it comes to parenting a needy child. I'm not going to pry about what is wrong with your husband, but if there is any pressure pain or contact pain, he could perhaps take extra cushioning or perhaps a sheepskin as extra assistance and comfort in a camp bed (or seating). But I speak from experience when it comes to pain medications - I was volunteering at the local school some years ago and accidentally dropped my pain medications. A kid found them, a kid who was also a close friend (son of best friend) who recognised my name on the prescription label. But it did cause a lot of trouble. So make sure your husband goes carefully with this one. Keep medications (a couple of days' dosage only) in a buttoned/zipped pocket of the clothes he is wearing (inner clothing, not outer wear). Also make sure that any medications he is carrying are known to officials in charge. Also husband needs to expect to get little or no sleep. If he goes in with this expectation as well a the pan to catch up during the days, then any sleep he DOES get will be a bonus. I hope it goes well. If he plans it well there is no reason why this shouldn't work. If he has really thought it through and wants to do this, then let him. Don't be too overprotective. Even if it wears him out, maybe even aggravates his pain - if husband is happy to do this and accepts the likely negatives - this is his choice. I say this as a person in constant severe pain with physical limitations. I need to be needed, I need to be useful. I also recognise that the people who love me want to protect me and hate to see me in pain. Give him a hug and a fleecy sheepskin, then send him off with a smile. Try not to bite your fingernails down to the quick while they're gone - this should be a vital experience for them both. Marg [/QUOTE]
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