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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 695206" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I think it is different. He just started this job. He is drinking before starting his shift, not working in the morning, taking a long lunch, then finishing the 2nd half of his shift. It sounds like the intent was to get a buzz on, not to nurse a drink over a leisurely meal and socialize. That incident and the 6 beers while playing video games alone raise red flags with me. I agree with SWOT. It escalates quickly.</p><p></p><p>I am obviously not one to give advice right now, but I can tell you that if Difficult Child was living with us, our drinking was very much an issue to him, even though it was done responsibly. Several times Difficult Child called it a "double standard."</p><p></p><p>Since it agitated him and gave him an excuse to do it (always to excess), we elected to keep it out of his line of sight. Even at that, he still searched our garage and cellar and found alcohol we had hidden long ago.</p><p></p><p>Because he is only staying with you temporarily and there are always more than enough battles to pick, I agree with Jabber. It seems easier for you and Jabber to just do it elsewhere for the duration.</p><p></p><p>Also, am I understanding correctly that after the 6 beers alone situation you told him no more alcohol in the house, but then Jabber came home and found 6 empties on the counter? If so, I would have a "my house, my rules" meeting. Backing down on a rule you already set is dangerous precedent, I think.</p><p></p><p>Just my very humble opinion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 695206, member: 17720"] I think it is different. He just started this job. He is drinking before starting his shift, not working in the morning, taking a long lunch, then finishing the 2nd half of his shift. It sounds like the intent was to get a buzz on, not to nurse a drink over a leisurely meal and socialize. That incident and the 6 beers while playing video games alone raise red flags with me. I agree with SWOT. It escalates quickly. I am obviously not one to give advice right now, but I can tell you that if Difficult Child was living with us, our drinking was very much an issue to him, even though it was done responsibly. Several times Difficult Child called it a "double standard." Since it agitated him and gave him an excuse to do it (always to excess), we elected to keep it out of his line of sight. Even at that, he still searched our garage and cellar and found alcohol we had hidden long ago. Because he is only staying with you temporarily and there are always more than enough battles to pick, I agree with Jabber. It seems easier for you and Jabber to just do it elsewhere for the duration. Also, am I understanding correctly that after the 6 beers alone situation you told him no more alcohol in the house, but then Jabber came home and found 6 empties on the counter? If so, I would have a "my house, my rules" meeting. Backing down on a rule you already set is dangerous precedent, I think. Just my very humble opinion. [/QUOTE]
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