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<blockquote data-quote="whatamess" data-source="post: 370558" data-attributes="member: 7664"><p>Friday is room cleaning day. It has been for a few years now. I have made a visual aid to help him see what needs to get done and he can move the pictures from 'needs to be done' to 'finished'. I help him as needed. Just the reminder that it is room cleaning day will send him into a tizzy, every time. He says he doesn't care that his room is messy, that it will just get messy again. We have had many discussions about why it is nice to have a clean home. He doesn't care and says so. He says he will leave his dirty clothes/wet towels on the floor every time. He is not supposed to have food in his room either, but he seems to hoard certain food items- candy, gum, bread, crackers, fruit. And it isn't always just laying out, he hides it in his dresser or by his mattress. This is his only formal chore besides bringing in garbage can on garbage day. He is capable of physically doing these tasks and cognitively able to clean up following his chart with reminders. As far as sending him to his room to chill out, we say 'chill out' instead of time out. This is necessary when he is manic, angry or hyper and starts hurting or harassing his siblings or pet. We always suggest he go outside to let off some energy and he is just so crawling out of his own skin he can't be rationalized with. </p><p> I am an adamant supporter of Ross Greene's philosopy. If difficult child were an only child I think it would be easier, being aware and ready to turn every moment into a teachable, collaborative moment is next to impossible when his moods vary and the demands of the rest of the family are always there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="whatamess, post: 370558, member: 7664"] Friday is room cleaning day. It has been for a few years now. I have made a visual aid to help him see what needs to get done and he can move the pictures from 'needs to be done' to 'finished'. I help him as needed. Just the reminder that it is room cleaning day will send him into a tizzy, every time. He says he doesn't care that his room is messy, that it will just get messy again. We have had many discussions about why it is nice to have a clean home. He doesn't care and says so. He says he will leave his dirty clothes/wet towels on the floor every time. He is not supposed to have food in his room either, but he seems to hoard certain food items- candy, gum, bread, crackers, fruit. And it isn't always just laying out, he hides it in his dresser or by his mattress. This is his only formal chore besides bringing in garbage can on garbage day. He is capable of physically doing these tasks and cognitively able to clean up following his chart with reminders. As far as sending him to his room to chill out, we say 'chill out' instead of time out. This is necessary when he is manic, angry or hyper and starts hurting or harassing his siblings or pet. We always suggest he go outside to let off some energy and he is just so crawling out of his own skin he can't be rationalized with. I am an adamant supporter of Ross Greene's philosopy. If difficult child were an only child I think it would be easier, being aware and ready to turn every moment into a teachable, collaborative moment is next to impossible when his moods vary and the demands of the rest of the family are always there. [/QUOTE]
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