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Troubled 13yo from tough background is extremely defiant
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 456879" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome. I wish I could give you the answer. Sadly, it sounds like her personality is mirroring that of her biomom and possibly her grandfather as well. I have raised eight kids including two grandsons but fortunately I have never dealt with such aggressive and destrutive behavior. One thing I have learned, however, is that an absentee parent has influence even when there is very limited contact.</p><p></p><p>Is there any positive behavior or interest that she has? I would see that as something to aggresively pursue as I really don't think "puting out fires" is a means of normalizing her life. The FB issue is a common one. Even if the computer is disabled she will have access at her friends house or even the public library. It's a heck of a problem.</p><p></p><p>Bringing her to live with you would certainly save your Mom alot of stress and likely really help the other two siblings live a more normal life. on the other hand it not only "may" ruin the life you enjoy it likely "will" do so. The one thing that I see as necessary (and evidently your Mom can provide) is consistency. Without that component teens spiral more rapidly. Although I don't have an answer for your situation I am sending caring thoughts your way. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 456879, member: 35"] Welcome. I wish I could give you the answer. Sadly, it sounds like her personality is mirroring that of her biomom and possibly her grandfather as well. I have raised eight kids including two grandsons but fortunately I have never dealt with such aggressive and destrutive behavior. One thing I have learned, however, is that an absentee parent has influence even when there is very limited contact. Is there any positive behavior or interest that she has? I would see that as something to aggresively pursue as I really don't think "puting out fires" is a means of normalizing her life. The FB issue is a common one. Even if the computer is disabled she will have access at her friends house or even the public library. It's a heck of a problem. Bringing her to live with you would certainly save your Mom alot of stress and likely really help the other two siblings live a more normal life. on the other hand it not only "may" ruin the life you enjoy it likely "will" do so. The one thing that I see as necessary (and evidently your Mom can provide) is consistency. Without that component teens spiral more rapidly. Although I don't have an answer for your situation I am sending caring thoughts your way. DDD [/QUOTE]
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